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My Christmas Wish:

2011-12-25T03:11:00.011-05:00

You know what I love most about Christmas time?

The energy in the air. Folks making an effort to be kind. Offer smiles. Speak warmly to each other.

Most of us spend time trying to think of what we can do for others. How can we bring a smile to those that we care about? How can we extend ourselves to help out someone in need?

You know what my wish is?

My wish is that we hold onto this vibe. That we cling to this energy of selflessness. My wish is that year round we speak with kindness and respect to strangers we encounter.

If we see someone in need, we reach out to them. That we pause in our daily routine to think how we can show those that mean the most to us that they matter and we so deeply appreciate that they are a part of our lives.

This is my wish.....for what its worth. And how beautiful would it be if we carried this powerful vibe in our hearts all year?....The ripple affect released in our Universe would be phenomenal...the kind of magic that miracles are made of........

Merry Christmas to you...May the love you feel in your heart today, plant its wonderful roots within your soul..... ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥ ♫ ♥

The Best Gift Fills the Heart:

2011-12-24T09:29:00.021-05:00

"I have the greatest of all riches: that of not desiring them." ~Eleonora Duse♥

Someone on Twitter jokingly said they "wish I rec'v a HDTV for Christmas...."

Truth is, I literally have all I could ever want.

Over the past few days not only has kindness been expressed to myself. But I have received the best gift every Mother assumed was a myth --- which is kindness and *Love* expressed to my child.

To give from the heart, has the most amazing and magical powers of pure & sacred positivity !! So much so that negative energy dare not try to taint. In fact it'll run far away seeking darker hearts to infest.

So you see, I'm sure a HDTV is a lovely gift...for someone.

But for me?

Nothing I can unwrap will ever move me as much as what I have already experienced in feeling someone care about me and my son.

***Happy Holidays Every ONE*...May you find many reasons to *SHIMMY!***

Her Name Was Joyce--- Dreams of a Life:

2011-12-17T10:02:00.036-05:00

Her name was Joyce Carol Vincent.
As I write this I speak her name out loud in a soft whisper. Who was she? What were her dreams? Who did she love?

The deepest question that remains unanswered is "How is it that Joyce died, alone in her apartment and was never discovered until THREE years later?"

Whenever I go on a trip or make an errand that is out of my routine, I let my loved ones know. When my friends take a road trip, they let me know their destination and expected time to return. Same with my parents, if they leave to spend the night with my aunt who lives within 10 miles from me, they still let me know.

We - who love - are connected.
We- who care - are connected.
We - who matter - are connected. So what happened in Joyce's life that shattered all synergy to connections in her life that let her body rot and decompose in front of a television not for one year...not for two years... but for THREE YEARS?! How does this happen?

I have a best friend who is overseas. As she was going through the steps of buying a car and obtaining an apartment she would call me and tell me the location and name of the people she was meeting. Every week, I have a significant road trip I need to make. Those that care about me know when I have left and when I'm expected to return - always. And when I cannot reach those I care about- I cannot relax until I've heard from them.

Three years? Three days would be a lifetime when am waiting to hear from someone I love.

What happened in Joyce's life that nobody -her friends, her sisters, her neighbors - not notice, or be moved enough to check up on her?

Dreams of a Life (2011) - Official Trailer [HD]

Not long before Joyce's death, she was in the hospital. She listed her 'Next of Kin' as her Bank Accountant. Her 'Bank Accountant?! How significant and painfully sad is that?

Dreams of a Life Clip - Next of Kin

The most common word that I've seen describe this film is 'Haunting'. Joyce has been described as a talented and beautiful woman. 'Haunting' gives the vibe to Joyce's life that feels like a tragic ballet performance, a sad Opera, both with a dash of Shakespearean twist of fate and tragedy.

Her name was Joyce. She became so invisible that the eventually she vanished. Her life evaporated off the face of this Earth. A name that I had never heard of, has now become a name I can never forget. A life I care about.

I often write about our life having purpose. A fact that Joyce may have disagreed with. But here she is. Waking us to show the importance of embracing and appreciating those that matter most, and maybe showing a little kindness to those who don't. ....haunting indeed.

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As we wait for this impactful documentary to come to the United States, continue to connect:

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TWITTER - DREAMS OF A LIFE UK

DREAMS OF A LIFE WEBSITE *A MUST SEE!* - WEBSITE

DREAMS OF A LIFE DIRECTOR CAROL MORLEY- VIDEO DIARY

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Take a Break with CoffeeBreak!

2011-12-16T03:44:00.022-05:00

You have worked hard all day! Take some time for yourself and spend some time to laugh and smile.

This 2 year old might be 20 by now. All I know is that he is the most adorable little boy! True, you cannot make out what he's saying. And still, he is making more sense than many of the "rap" songs you will hear played over the airwaves.

2 Year Old Freestyle Raps in Gibberish with a Hype Man:

One of my favorite shows is "The Graham Norton" show. Far better than any of the US talk shows. At the end of Graham's segments they have a 'Red Chair' segment. I need one of these in my living room!

Red Chair Series 9 Part 1

I hope you are enjoying your break. To make the day complete, it is a MUST to have some music in our lives. In the sprite of the season, here is one of my favorite Christmas songs!

Mariah Carey - All I Want For Christmas Is You:

Have a great day! Be sure to **LIKE**, **COMMENT***, ***SHARE*** and more importantly **SMILE!***

SAM COOKE - January 22, 1931 - December 11, 1964:

2011-12-11T22:00:00.035-05:00

SAM COOKE
January 22, 1931 – December 11, 1964

"On December 11, 1964, Sam Cooke dies after being shot three times in the chest in Los Angeles.
Cooke was shot by Bertha Franklin, a manager at the Hacienda Motel. Franklin claimed Cooke threatened her life after attempting to rape a woman who had checked into the motel just a few hours before. To this day, people are still suspicious of what really happened at the Hacienda Motel… "
(via LIFE Magazine)

Well, Life Magazine has it right. The 'official' story that is. However, all these years later, there is still a unique uncertainty surrounding the death of Sam Cooke. Who knows if we will ever know the real story. Regardless, what remains a fact is, Sam Cooke was shot, and died on December 11, 1964. Additionally, what remains as a fact, is that Sam was one of the most talented artists of his time. And to this day , he is still missed my many.

Sam Cooke had a reputation of being a 'Ladies Man'. He had a reputation of being the man who enjoys a good time. He also was known, for being an incredibly talented musician......

One of Cooke's most popular songs, that still continues to capture the passion and strength of the Civil Rights era is ' A Change Is Gonna Come".

A Change Is Gonna Come -- Sam Cooke

The quality of this 'Cha Cha Cha' video isn't the greatest. However, it's such a treasure to find a video with these two great men.

Same Cooke and Jackie Wilson:

New Sam Cooke Documentary PBS TV STATION (American Masters)

'Nothing Can Change This Love' - is the type of love song, every Man and Woman should have on hand to dedicate to someone special at least once in their lifetime. Such a sweet song. What moves me the most about this song is the piano playing. I love the delicate way it flows with Cooke's Angelic voice.

"Nothing Can Change This Love" -

Sam Cooke had a simple elegance and class about himself. Sometimes, I wonder, what Cooke's final hours were like. Maybe the only ones who could say have passed on. Still, as far as musicians go -- Cooke was one of the very best. May he Rest In Peace.

Queens of Comedy: Moms Mabley & Aunt Esther

2011-12-11T08:50:00.073-05:00

Many of you may have heard of The Queens of Comedy starring Adele Givens, Laura Hayes, Mo'Nique, and Sommore. But two women who I feel do not get the recognition the so deeply deserve are two legends in the comedy world.

See before, there was Mo'Nique, Sommore, Adele and Ms. Laura- there was Jackie "Moms" Mabley and Lawanda "Aunt Esther" Page. These ladies had the ability and skill to make the Def Jam comedians blush, if they so chose.

Jackie "Moms" Mabley
(March 19, 1894 – May 23, 1975)

Jackie"Moms" Mabley, born Loretta Mary Aiken

As a child I remember getting into my parents record collection. Uhm... see a 'record' is a large disk that we would place on a big contraption to listen to...uhm....*sigh* "Google "Record and Record player" if I am losing you with these ancient tools of entertainment.

The album cover captured my attention. This elderly lady, without her teeth, posing with her midriff showing. The album was her 1969 record called "The Youngest Teenager" .

In this clip, Moms is a guest on The Flip Wilson Show. Which could lead into another conversation to explain that before Tyler Perry's "Madea", there was Flip Wilson's Geraldine.

TRIBUTE TO MOMS MABLEY: Moms on the Flip Wilson Show

Moms could be a bit 'blue' with her humor. This clip of 'Buying a Bra' gives a sample of her style. Often joking about the ex's in her life, she is one of those women I would love to sit back and have a drink with. Granted, I don't really drink, but in my mind, me & Moms are getting it in with some Hennesy or maybe she was a woman after my heart and would've preferred Black Cherry Kool-Aid.

Buying a Bra:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4eSjwvcVrSQ

My mind is such a magical place. And at times I wonder "what if."
WHAT IF we had a 'Laverne & Shirley -esq' show that stared Lawanda & Moms? OH...THE......JOY !!!!!

LAWANDA PAGE
(October 19, 1920 – September 14, 2002)

LaWanda Page born Alberta Peal

I love me some Fred G. Sanford A.K.A the original Hoarder! In the television show Sanford & Son I was introduced the quick witted, Bible thumping Aunt Esther.

Typically, Aunt Esther and Fred are at each other throats, but in this episode of "Mama's Baby, Papa's Maybe' they unite. What's deep about this clip is that we see the use of the 'N-Word' delivered in true comedic fashion. Matter of fact,"Sanford and Son" used the N-Word a few times in their episodes. Now it's bleeped from T.V., well at least on some channels. As comedy the word is bleeped, as a description of African Americans, the word seems to always find its way uncensored. I'm sure that has nothing to do with America's love & respect for African Americans ::cue sarcasm::

Ms. Lawanda was a match made in T.V. Heaven, as I can think of no one else who could have played 'Aunt Esther' any better. But don't let the Bible and purse fool you. Lawanda was fierce! In this clip from Dean Martin's Roast "honoring" Frank Sinatra, it will give you a glimpse of her sassy saucy ways. However, please know this is mild in comparison to her true BLUE venom!

Lawanda Page Roasts Frank Sinatra:

I sure would have loved to have known these ladies. Comedians who make me laugh, I feel are some of the most intelligent people in the world. It's an art, a science to find the humor in the chaos and complications in surviving day to day life.

I hope you have enjoyed celebrating the beauty and brilliance of these ladies as much as I have!

Be sure to share! TWITTER! ((LIKE)), and COMMENT

((HUGS & much LAUGHTER to YOU))

Remembering Otis Redding - 40th Year Anniversary of his death:

2011-12-10T19:13:00.033-05:00

If your only knowledge of Otis Redding is from the Jay Z & Kanye West song 'Otis' then be prepared to experience the literal shift of your world of wisdom growing for the better.

Soul music did not begin nor did it end with Otis Redding, but it sure as heck would not have been the same without his presence.

His voice captures intimacy, passion and strength in such an authentic way. He didn't make his voice riff and get complex and complicated, like the auto tune generation seems to cling to these days. He kept it simple. Raw. I would say the kind of gully you would want your Man to come at you with - Full of Strength. Full of Security. Full of Soul...Soul-Full.

"Otis died just one day after this performance. The plane that carried him and the Bar-Kays, also featured here as his backing band, crashed into that ice lake in Madison, Wisconsin where they were scheduled to play. " -TheNumberonechannel
WARNING: Once you experience Otis' version of 'Try A Little Tenderness' you might spit up a little in your mouth the next time you hear the Jay Z/West version...You have been warned.

I could listen to Otis sing 'My Lover's Prayer' each and every day that I am on this earth. It's the kind of song that embraces you tightly. Especially when you had not realized that you needed to be held.

My Lover's Prayer:

'I've Got Dreams to Remember' might be my favorite Otis Redding song. It's the type of song that only feels complete to dance a slow and beautiful dance in the arms of your Man. I write this in December, but to me, this is the type of slow dance song to save for the hottest of hot says in the moonlight. It's a slow song to dance to while barefoot. It's sweet-tea in jars full of ice-cubes dripping down the sides type of song. It's the "Yes, baby- I got your back" type of song....Which based on the lyrics - it's a 'I saw my woman cheating'...'eh tomAto - toMAHto. *smile*
I've Got Dreams To Remember:

Thank you for taking the time to remember THE late - THE great - THE one and only Mr. Otis Redding with me. Please be sure to ((LIKE)), ((TWITTER)) ((COMMENT)) and ((SHARE)).

Note: I want to thank the very talented Danyel Smith for posting the concert photo above on her tumblr page. As I had not realized today was the anniversary of his death.

Otis Redding. Sept 9, 1941 - Dec 10, 1967 ♥

COFFEEBREAK ARTIST OF THE DAY: Jimmy Wayne

2011-12-07T23:12:00.031-05:00

Today's video profile is to shed some light on Country singer Jimmy Wayne. Yes- COUNTRY music! A majority of the music I listen to would be R&B, Rap, Jazz, Indie, and I don't know a lot about many Country singers. However, every now and then I come across a song and artist that moves me.

::cue Jimmy Wayne::

I first became aware of Jimmy Wayne by stumbling upon a clip of him singing the Hall & Oats song 'Sara Smile' on a VH-1 video site. "Sara Smile" had been a favorite song that reminded me of the best of times during my childhood. I remember my older brother Geno attempting to hit the falsetto lines in the song from the Hall & Oats version. Though Geno's version was extremely off key!

Hall & Oats were one of the few White groups who graced the Soul Train stage. To see artists perform on Saturday afternoons was a treat, not like today where there's an abundance of music channels, leaving us with little appreciation of being able to access 24/7. The artists on Soul Train became something special. And when White artists appeared on Soul Train, it was as if they were granted some kind of 'pass'. Should music be defined as color? Not really - I prefer to say Soul-FULL & Soul-Less.

Which brings me back to Jimmy. Many artists today produce Soul-Less music. In that it's all about the blood of the bling, it's all about superficial nonsense. Jimmy's music has shown a consistency in Soul-FULL music. He sings about the many tattered threads woven within our hearts. Ok-THAT sounds cheesy-- but fitting for a Country song, no? *smile*
(check my blog for other artists profiled on the Coffeebreak Video of the day - you won't be disappointed)

Sara Smile:

"Can men and women be FRIENDS?" -- This has been an ongoing debate I have been having. My platform is "YES!" and time and time....and time again, I am proven WRONG. In Jimmy's song "Do You Believe Me Now", Jimmy sings about this very subject, and it does not in any way support my position on the matter!

Do You Believe Me Now:

It's true that hearing Jimmy's cover of 'Sara Smile' introduced me to his music. But learning about his life drew me closer. He has a new novel that is called "Paper Angels". He has had the most complex, dysfunctional, challenging life- which I would encourage you to listen to. Especially if you have gone through your own trials and tribulations. Especially if you need motivation, hope or an example that success and survival is obtainable. A positive life is within reach for all of us. If you doubt this, if you doubt that you too can have the life you have always dreamed of, then listen to Jimmy's story, and all he had endured. Not once does he wear the badge of a victim. And even now he is humble about his success. He's just a man with a guitar singing about love and life. The recipe for the the very best of any song.

I admire Jimmy's tenacity as he is adamant and consistent in addressing social issues that often go ignored. Domestic Abuse, Homelessness, as well as a tremendous amount of focus on America's Foster Care system.

Interview:

Paper Angels:

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Happy Birthday Mr. Richard Pryor:

2011-12-01T07:04:00.030-05:00

One of the biggest gifts that social networking has to offer is being able to connect with people that we would normally not connect with for a variety of reasons.

A majority of people I interact with on Twitter, I would have never met in "real life", because my routine is pretty much dominated by life's responsibilities. Which is most likely the case with many of us.

Every now and then some people stand out, and when you see their name appear in the time line, it's a pleasant and welcoming thought. Like, "There's BASSEY! and NIKKI is in the house!" ::waves, offers drink:: Well, RAIN is in that vibe.

Which is why this morning, when I read Rain's posts about her father's birthday, my immediate thought was "OH! YEAH! THE RICHARD PRYOR is her father!" Usually, when Rain appears in my time line, her posts are about her incredible daughter Lotus, teaching, or she is sharing the journey of her own career in stand-up comedy.

So today we are remembering the gifted, abundantly talented Richard Pryor. You might have heard of him. He's Rain's father, and Lotus' grandfather. *smile*

Richard Pryor on Sesame Street:
"T didn't take no U!"

There is no denying that Richard was a genius, ahead of his time.
Richard Pryor, 1st black President:

To N-Word or not to N-Word...that is the confusion. I will write more about this subject another day. But it's one of those questions that many have an opinion about and no two people can seem to agree.

Recently my Man pointed out to me as we were talking that I have never called him the "N-word". (Quick sneak peek into a world of color: The N-word is used to joke around, endearing. Does not mean, that any other race has a ticket to use.) But as much joking around that we do- it never occurred to me to ever call him the N-word. My respect for who he is as a Man and intellect prevents me from even pretending to do so.

In this clip from "Live on Sunset", Richard addresses the use of the N-Word. "Live on Sunset" is funny. It's deep. It's the type of performance that you can watch hundreds of times, and pick up on something that you missed before.

Live on Sunset - N-Word:

Richard Pryor Dec 1 1941- Dec 10 2005

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COFFEEBREAK VIDEO OF THE DAY: Idris Muhammad

2011-11-30T21:26:00.023-05:00

What I learned tonight is that you cannot play just one Idris Muhammad song. It's just not possible....Not if you enjoy great music that is!

My current favorite two songs by Mr. Muhammad are:

HOUSE OF THE RISING SUN:
This is simply way too FUNKY to ignore. It's the type of FUNK that forces your face to contort into something unrecognizable. Remember how Mr. Cosby use to do? Like something stunk.. no stank? See, when the talent is that raw and FUNKY - it doesn't stink...it stanks... Many people don't know this little Funk fact.

I BELIEVE IN YOU:
"I BELIEVE IN YOU" is one my most favorite sentences in the entire world. This song is ....beautiful......

Let me know what you think! "TWEET" or share on "LIKE" .....and/or COMMENT! xoxoxo

COFFEEBREAK VIDEO OF THE DAY - Maimouna Youssef

2011-11-29T07:52:00.013-05:00

Until yesterday, I had never heard of Maimouna Youssef.

Driving home, I was listening to the radio on 89.3 WPFW’s program ILL Street Grooves , and she was being interviewed on their radio show.

It was a good interview. Her personality seemed to have much spark and light to it. She seemed like the kind of energy that I could see myself hanging around.

I wasn’t expecting to be impressed with her music though. No shade on her, it's just I’m pretty stingy with my kudos.

And then they played one of her songs. And wow- did I soon learn that Maimouna is worth the time to check out.

I have described her as "similar to, but a slightly different vibe than Jill Scott”. No need to compare her to any other artist. She is unique, sharp, and talented enough to have longevity as a musician people with sense would seek to find and listen to.

Give Maimouna Youssef a chance. I think you’ll dig her style.

COFFEEBREAK VIDEO OF THE DAY: Armstrong Williams

2011-11-27T13:51:00.005-05:00

This video of Armstrong Williams has been around for a while. But it STILL makes me smile and laugh. So I will warn you now- only push play if you want to laugh out loud.

**** UPDATE*****
The star of this video Mr. Armstrong Williams himself, just tweeted me!

Jimi Hendrix - HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!

2011-11-27T11:48:00.009-05:00

Happy Birthday to the one and only Jimi Hendrix!

Born on November 27, 1942. James Marshall "Jimi" Hendrix (born Johnny Allen Hendrix).

I feel that if Jimi Hendrix were still alive, he would be living in Europe and performing whenever he chose. He would visit small towns all over the world and perform in impromptu jam sessions with gifted musicians like Prince and Krad Retfa.

Jimi’s energy always seemed gentle to me. He wasn’t the type of man I would force into a particular label. I never saw him as masculine or feminine. I just saw him as a free spirit. I feel that’s because it’s the one place where he could without being boxed in or judged.
If Jimi and I were friends in the 70’s, he would be the friend I was always worried about. I would worry about trusting those who only wanted to know him for who he was. I would be conflicted with supporting him unconditionally and hating when he was diving into drugs that allowed him 3-D experiences into his own mentality.
More than likely, I would be the drug free friend in the hippie environment. Which I suppose in some ways is to say that I explore unique dimensions enough naturally without needing the assistance of pretty pills.

This is reported to be the last interview Jimi Hendrix granted. It takes place on September 11, 1970 ... Jimi died on September 18, 1970

COFFEEBREAK'S VIDEO OF THE DAY:

2011-11-26T15:34:00.005-05:00

"Shine" 2012 Chevrolet Cruze Chevrolet

Never thought I would spend all day looking for a commercial. But I had to find this!

Watching the X-Factor the other night, this Chevy commercial came on the air.

Why this commercial?

Because this is what reaching for a dream looks like. The character in this commercial is driven (no pun, though probably intended pun by Chevy). Her day begins and ends with her singing. She performs in front of almost empty venues, or just sings while alone.

Every waking moment she is polishing her craft. And while this is a simple, short commercial. I dig it because it’s also inspiration. It’s a version of what true tenacity look likes.

Recently my Man was trying to shake me out of my aloof –dream-reaching nature. So much of my writing takes place in my head. But unless I’m mistaken, the Kindle and iPhone have yet to create an application that can translate books from one’s mind.

My heart was driven, but that is no where nearly enough. Not if I want to accomplish anything. So yes, I find myself moved by this simple video, of this simple girl, with a simple dream.

"The Smart Boy on the Short Bus. And Other Cups Full of Shard Glass Tales." - Michelle bond

2011-11-26T07:42:00.003-05:00

"The Smart Boy on the Short Bus. And Other Cups Full of Shard Glass Tales." - Michelle bond

(coming soon to an Amazon.com & Kindle near you!!)

COFFEEBREAK'S VIDEO OF THE DAY:

2011-11-25T23:37:00.013-05:00

A Mystic Prince's Twisted Christmas Gift - by Krad Retfa:

"Not very easy to describe... However, why describe what you can experience? Hit play & ENJOY THE RIDE!" - Mr. Krad Retfa

{Let’s Talk About Sex} How A Single Mom Talks To Her Son About Sex

2011-11-24T21:55:00.007-05:00

{Let's Talk About Sex} How A Single Mom Talks To Her Son About Sex:

(My Brown Baby article): Click HERE for story!

Domestic Abuse During Pregnancy: My Story.

2011-11-24T21:33:00.007-05:00

My interview on WHUR-WORLD on the Sighlent Storm radio show.

click here to listen:

http://sighlentstorm.com/blog/?p=131

My ThanksGiving Confession:

2011-11-24T10:27:00.005-05:00

I have a confession to make. And considering the fact that today is Thanksgiving, this is a whopper! Confessions of all confessions! It’s the type of secret that only my closest friends and family know. Until today that is. As now I have the strength and courage to share this with you.

I do not cook.

I know a collective *gasp!*. A true shock and awe confession of a women in her 40’s, with a teen aged son. In a world where there are cooking shows and cooking competitions on our television daily. Which by the way, I enjoy watching. Just have zero, zip interest in doing.

I do not cook.

We live in a world where every woman’s handbook has the quote “The way to a man’s heart is through is stomach” – Thank goodness for alternative paths, otherwise I would never know love.

Growing up, I lived in a household where my mom and dad prepared home cooked meals wonderfully. My grandmother owned a restaurant in North Carolina called “Annette’s Kitchen”, which to this day, a conversation could easily be sparked by my relatives reminiscing over her amazing fried chicken and other flawless southern dishes.

My cousin and my dad are in some way cook-aholics. They walk into a kitchen and it’s as if the groceries leap and beg to be chosen for that day’s meal!
My man is also gifted in the kitchen. A few years ago he made a spaghetti dish with the most incredible hearty sauce that I still dream about to this day. My son is thrilled when he is over so we can have a reason to turn on the stove.
I’m not that kind of Mom. I use to feel guilty about this, but now I just embrace the truth of who I really am.

My best friend Tracey is that kind of Mom. I admire her. She actually likes to collecting special pots and pans. To define these items this way is sort of an insult, because I could tell by the excitement she and my other cooking friends have expressed that there are some pots and pans that cause for an exclamation of joy within them. But alas, (I always wanted to have a reason to use that word- “alas”…. A non-cooking girl needs something to raise her worth) … as I was saying – but alas, the joy of the particular pans are wasted on me – as I just see “pan”. As deep as I am going to get would be to say big pan or little pan.

So on this Thanksgiving, while many of my friends and family will be spending much of the day in the kitchen, I will be going over to my parent’s home with my son to enjoy a meal deliciously prepared. My parents have turned ‘breaking bread’ into an art. Imagine Turkey, Ham, Collards, Yams, Mashed Potatoes with Onions and without, Cranberry, Stuffing, and several other options to choose from. And here’s the beautiful part – and the end of the meal, when we have all eaten until our little jaws get tired, and we are now sleepy and we’re ready to leave, my parents will bring out TO GO CONTAINERS!

Yes! Just like at a restaurant! But even better! As I know the kitchen that prepared this feast was clean! And these to-go meals are FREE! I love free good food!

Some may say that this enables my non-cooking lifestyle. And maybe it does. But since they love to cook, it’s a win/win situation. No? :)

And so you now know my deepest darkest secret. My Thanksgiving confession is I do not know how to cook. Nor do I have any desire to do so.

But guess what? I am going to learn anyway. I have been blessed with a Man who is willing, caring and patient enough to take the time to teach me. I have been blessed with parents who are only a short visit and phone call away should I have questions. My best friend Tracey is pro-casserole and has been trying to give me tips for years….and to add to my list of those I’m so deeply blessed to have in my life – is my son. Yes, at times, my 14 year old son instructs me on the proper technique of preparing pancakes.

I may never be “That Mom” who is always fixing magic in the kitchen and who has something baking in the oven at all times. I am the Mom who will take her child to all things art. Readings, museums, concerts, or we’ve taken trips to D.C. to seek homeless friends that may need a hand.

As I face and embrace the truth in the type of Mom I am, I still wish to aim higher. And the beauty of it all, is not only will I never go hungry as all the people I love in my life are great cooks, but I am also fortunate and appreciative to have these exact and specific people in my life. This is my family. The bonus is they love me as much as I love them.

So no matter which Mom you find yourself relating to, I wish you the most beautiful Thanksgiving. No matter how your family dynamic is made up, I wish you beautiful memories and laughter.

On this day of Thanks – I wish you an abundance of blessings to be thankful for whether you find joy in or out the kitchen. Happy ThanksGiving.

I'm Being Interviewed on WHUR-World This Saturday @ 10 am!

2011-08-26T04:43:00.003-05:00

I recently wrote an article for www.mybrownbaby.com : CLICK HERE to read.

Please tune in an join me this Saturday as I will be interviewed on WHUR-World to discuss domestic abuse.

Click on www.whurworld.com this Sat. at 10 AM EST then click listen LIVE!!!

For questions or comments call in LIVE 1 877 948 7967 with your hosts Mandrell Birks and Denise McCain. The program is called Sighlent Storm.

Peace & Light ~ michelle (CoffeeBreak)

Krad Retfa on Route to Chocolate City:

2011-08-22T20:29:00.003-05:00

GoAnimate.com: Krad Retfa on Route to Chocolate City by Krad Retfa

Like it? Create your own at GoAnimate.com. It's free and fun!

I made a Baby with the Devil: (My Brown Baby article)

2011-08-18T22:22:00.003-06:00

I Made A Baby With the Devil: A Black Mom’s Story of Parenting and Domestic Abuse:

Click HERE for story!

"Lolita Loungerie"?! Who is Protecting our Young Girls?!

2011-08-18T21:22:00.006-06:00

How on Earth did this Lolita Lingerie line get approved?!
I’m not sure where my concern is the deepest. The petifiles who will go to this site in heavy repetition to get their sick and twisted fix on. OR the Mom’s who do not understand that they need to protect their daughters.
I get that some issues are a matter of opinion. Yeah- ok, whatever. Sorry, it is ridiculous AND dangerous to have a children’s line such as this one.
Our young girls are to be protected. They are to be empowered and encouraged to respect themselves and be intelligent. Our young girls are entitled to be safe. They are not to be objectified – never- ever- ever- PERIOD.

"IT" - Super Sexy Prince Remake! !THIS!

2011-08-18T20:55:00.004-06:00

It takes a bold & confident artist to remake a sexy Prince song.
Priest has captured the sultry essence that you can expect in a Prince song, but added his own vibe to make the song uniquely his.

Personally, I dig the texture of his voice. It's pleasing to my soul. Check it out - I know you will dig it too!

The WILD- The Nevermind Brothers (Feat. Priest on Guitar)

2011-08-09T16:12:00.003-06:00

This song has made my day! Do yourself a favor and take a sec to check it out!

"Momma told us there's a way through the WILD Just remember while you walk this place Ain't no love behind every smile And a wolf in different clothes still on the same game."

Native American Water Healing Song - Crystal Clear

2011-04-07T14:58:00.000-05:00

Water is such a beautiful big deal to me. It's the one source that every single human deserves to have abundantly. Clean. Fresh. Enjoy this video & Let me know what you think... ** Hugs 2 U**

To Spank or Not to Spank? That is the Question:

2011-03-18T02:36:00.003-05:00

My article in the fantastic My Brown Baby site!

"A Reformed Spanker Reveals Why She Wishes

She Would Have Spared the Rod"

Click HERE for article!

My Son’s ADHD Diagnosis Was a Relief and a Starting Point for Progress

2011-03-08T17:52:00.000-05:00

My article in Momtourage.com if you are interested in checking it out....

My Son’s ADHD Diagnosis Was a Relief and a Starting Point for Progress

Mike Huckabee Slams Natalie Portman For 'Child Out Of Wedlock'

2011-03-05T06:29:00.001-05:00

Not sure why Huckabee felt the need to get in Natalie P's business....BUT...since he has, I will say this....As a women who chose to give birth out of wedlock, I suggest that Natalie and her friends AND all unwed mothers chose to never support Huckabee -- EVER.

I don't care if he is in a cookie selling contest for Conservative tap dancers or a contestant on Matchgame (Hey! It could make a comeback!) - He is irrelavent to me. *POOF! - Be gone!*
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

Matt Damon, Co-Founder Of Water.org, Speaks Out About Global Water Crisis (Video)

2011-03-05T00:20:00.001-05:00

VERY impressed w/ Matt D taking a stand on this matter. WATER is huge issue...Globally we have an abundance of solutions that we never turn to because it affects Corprate GREED...uhm, I mean Corporate Dollars...
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

Chapelfield Elementary School Sorry For Making Black Student 'Slave'

2011-03-04T15:09:00.001-05:00

There is a deep need to have open and honest talks about Race relations. This includes America's choice to create its foundation from Slavery. The teacher *FAILED* in this exercise. Her intent may have been good. But her ignorance and lack of sensitivity is concerning...and clearly has no idea of how deep a cut she just created for this child.

I especially recommend this very short read for anyone who says "Slavery was so long ago! Why keep acting like it just happened!" Please know that the pebbles thrown a few hundred years ago, still sting and bleed for those stoned with them today...
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

Have You Checked Out The - MY BROWN BABY site?

2011-02-07T17:01:00.005-05:00

Hello,
Please check out my first article in the fantastic MY BROWN BABY!
If you are not familiar with this site- do yourself a favor and check it out.
I am proud to be part of MBB! And hope you enjoy it as well.

MY ARTICLE IN MBB: click here!

PS: Please be sure to "LIKE" the page and comment -would love to hear your feedback ((Hugs2U))

13 Products Most Likely To Made By Child Or Forced Labor (PHOTOS)

2010-12-18T13:52:00.001-05:00

It will never happen....but.....how ideal it would be if the labels of these & all products reflected if children were used or if women were underpaid....
Read the Article at HuffingtonPost

Happy Holidays?

2010-12-16T23:44:00.002-05:00

Happy Holidays?

Next week is Christmas. I have never been a fan of putting a big tree in my living room...while I love walking into a decorated home - a tree in the living room always seemed very odd to me. Still, I submitted to this tradtion when my son was born.

Many times as a single parent I tend to over compensate. It's as if I want to ensure that when he's a grown man he will have "Wonderful Life-esq" memories to reflect upon.

So every year after Thanksgiving I begin to stress about getting the tree up and decorated before Christmas.

Except this year.

This year everything is different. Everything is crumbling. My child is now taller than me....more aggressive...stronger - 13 year old man-boy-man.

This year- I am still stressing about decorating my home. Because that's what a good mom would do. But as of today no lights warm my home. No tree -yet.

My son's melt downs are getting more and more intense. To bang, punch, stomp, and curse are becoming his cadence of process. I realized today that I am hesitant in putting up the tree because I feel deep down inside that in a tantrum he will destroy the tree or at least knock it down. Which would not be the end of the world. Yet it already feels emotionally hurtful.

Happy Holidays?

I know- even as I write this that I have so much to be thankful for....I know that I am not alone. I know deep down that I still have the responsibility to create some Christmas cheer and have something beautiful for my son to wake up to Christmas morning.

If in a melt down he knocks the tree over. I will try not to think too hard about how symbolic it is...and pick it back up and move on with my day.

Welcome To Our ODD Life: Happy Holidays

2010-11-26T06:08:00.002-05:00

Hello & Happy Holidays!
The holiday season is when we get to create many beautiful and positive memories. The holiday season is also one of the most stressful times for an ADHD/ODD home.
What can we do to get through these days? Plenty! It starts with being still...and allowing yourself the space to ....breathe....
Connect! Comment! and Enjoy each and EVERY day! And above all,, KNOW that YOU are the absolute best parent for your child!!
((HUGS 2 U!))
michelle/coffeebreakdmv

formspring.me

2010-11-18T06:45:00.001-05:00

Ask me anything http://formspring.me/CoffeeBreakDMV

Join Talib Kweli & Bassey Ikpi on World AIDS Day in their Support for People Living with HIV/AIDS.

2010-11-16T18:57:00.000-05:00

Join Talib Kweli & Bassey Ikpi on World AIDS Day in their Support for People Living with HIV/AIDS.

Have you thought about life beyond da boi; when he's interested in girls, spreading his wings, living a full life of his own; when he's all grown up and moved on? Describe it to me? :-)

2010-11-15T21:33:00.001-05:00

I think about this everyday! My onl goal is to get him to adulthood alive & free. For him to choose his own destiny by having as many choices as possible.
Because we are at a delicate time in his life, AND because my parents are STILL a great help to me--- I cannot totally see the day when he's grown, livingh his life and I have Nothing to do! LOL

Ask me anything

Welcome to Our ODD Life:

2010-10-23T09:27:00.006-05:00

Hello, and thank you so much for checking out my very first 'vlog'- after a particular challenging week of raising my incredible 13 year old son, it occured to me that maybe a video journal might be the most effective way to communicate and connect.

Raising a son who is gifted, strong willed, ADHD, ODD etc is an experience unlike no other. It blends in a tremendous amount of issues from how to discipline, to medicate or not medicate and always the constant question is "How do I fix/heal/save my child?"

Many on Twitter know of my son as "da Boi" and he as acquired his own little following as he is a riot, he is funny, he says the most entertaining things and does things that crack many of us up. All my twitter stories are true and often in"real time". I like that so many adore him because it shows that a child with a neurological disorder is still a functioning child. An amazing human to want to hang out with.

Over the years many have suggested that I write a book and find a way to share my journey. Many who have known my son and I since he was a toddler find our story interesting and feel that maybe it'll inspire others. That may be true...all I know is I fight and love through each day doing my best.

So if you have checked out my video- I thank you so much! Please 'like' and comment and ask me questions that you might have, especially if you have a young child- I KNOW what your days are like.

The plan is to do a weekly video. There are so many layers to cover- ADHD, ODD, medication, IEP meetings at the school, etc....As I write this, specifically to the parent(s) who are experiencing this- I ask you to release being exhausted and choose to be encouraged.

Again- thank you for checking this out and for your patience as I work out the kinks! :)

Be well. Be Positive. Be Strong. *Love 2 U!* - michelle/CoffeeBreak

VINCENT A. WALKER -- WHERE ARE YOU??

2010-10-10T10:59:00.005-05:00

HELLO,

PLEASE PASS THIS ON- ESPECIALLY IF YOU LIVE THE THE VIRGINIA/DC/MARYLAND AREA--- I BELIEVE IN "SIX DEGREES OF SEPERATION" - WHICH MEAN *SOMEONE* WHO SEES THIS WILL KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT VINCENT.

THANK YOU...

Welcoming Fall- Finding our way:

2010-09-23T05:27:00.000-06:00

There is something soothing and comforting about the Fall season. Maybe it's the fact that the air gets a little chilly and we seek comfy clothes to keep us warm. Maybe it's the shorter days that bring us home a little earlier. Whatever it is- I love the Fall season more than any other season.

Fall also brings the energy of new beginnings. Time to start new goals, new dreams and maybe to leave those who do not uplift our lives behind.

One ritual I find myself enjoying each season is listening to Eva Cassidy's version of 'Autumn Leaves'. Eva's voice in some ways is haunting. She sings like she's in on all our past memories. Her voice is crisp and clear- truly perfect for the birth of a new Fall season.

This Fall season take time to reflect. Reflect on who you are. What your dreams are. What your purpose in this world is. I don't know what the specifics of these answers are- but I do know that we all have a purpose- we all have a beautiful destiny...the trick is to find it.

And what a perfect time to do so....Fall.

PLATINUM, OPRAH, and 495:

2010-09-12T14:41:00.009-06:00

Oprah has made a compelling campaign with her NO PHONE Pledge to urge as many as she can to not text while they are driving. This is a very valid campaign. And I agree, folks should not drive & text.

But....while it's soooooo wrong for drivers to do this- I must admit, I tend to get distracted when I'm not driving and texting. It's as if I pay MORE attention when I am texting, to be sure I stay with the flow of traffic.

That's wrong.....right?

It IS wrong- and I have stopped driving and texting because as careful as I am, I must admit that there have been one or two occasions where I had some close calls when we weren't even going very fast. So I will go on record to say that I do not drive and text.

Oprah is going to be so impressed by ME! She is going to ask me to come on her show to talk about the strength and dedication this act takes! Right?...yeah- not very likely indeed!

As I share all of this, I must come clean because you and I are close now...

I am in a lot of traffic everyday ::cue audience empathy awwww::

Many times I am not moving at all because 495 drivers are all stopping probably to meditate and give thanks to the Universe....Well, whatever the reason, we just don't move as quickly as I would like....so while I do not text and drive... I do read.

It's not my fault- I blame Aliya S. King for this backsliding act and her latest book "Platinum". Not even joking- The book is "that good".

For those that know me in the "real world" - know I have my little home filled with hundreds of books. Everywhere I am - know a book is nearby. My purse; my car; my desk at work. And I am not a scholar- I just love literature.

I like what I like and don't bend to what it's trendy. I tried to read "Anna Karenina" by Leo Tolstoy because Oprah seemed so excited about it. I tried and was irritated by the characters. And wasn't impressed with Tolstoy. I feel like I should humble myself when saying that- but chances are he wouldn't be impressed with me either. I simply didn't feel the characters showed any warmth and I felt that they were often spoiled and self centered.

Beyond trying to read Tolstoy I am also reading (and enjoying) "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho.

I have heard so much about this book, and it is living up my expectations.

Still,it has been a long time since I picked up a book and was unable to put down. When I find this kind of book, it's almost magical. And every moment that I'm in limbo and do not have the book in my hand, I feel that it's wasted time. It's not odd to see me walking at my job with book in hand, I have it down to a science.

Sitting in traffic. Is such a waste of time. So here I am- book in hand, eagerly waiting to find out if Josephine will get her baby, if Beth will lose her baby and her mind; if Kipenzi is really Beyonce; and if Cleo is really Superhead.

I care. I found myself turning the page and forcing myself to not skip down the page without reading every word, just because I wanted to know which man Cleo was having sex with.

Look- like I said earlier...we are close now you and I... you know I would not steer you wrong- "Platinum" is a book worth reading. It totally delivers! It's entertaining. It forces us to look within about what we would or would not tolerate from our partners. It forces us to examine the dance between forgiveness and being a fool and to know sometimes both happen at the same time.

Have you read "Platinum"- what did you think? And what books have you on the edge of your seat that you can't put down until you read "one more page"....

ATTN: POETS & WRITERS in the DC AREA!!

2010-08-23T15:12:00.002-06:00

ATTN: POETS & WRITERS in the DC AREA!!

Looking for a creative and meaningful way to spend some time?

Come share your talent and participate in a reading with Senior Citizens at the Overlook!

WHEN: THIS Wednesday, August 25th @ 3:00 pm

WHERE: 3700 9th Street, SE, Washington, DC 20032

Feel free to contact Jennifer Smith for additional details:
(202) 373-5194 Ext 7.

This is going to be an amazing afternoon!

Ticket to Boy-Manhood

2010-08-23T06:34:00.002-06:00

Finding something fun to do in the summer of 1983 was not easy. Our options were limited. The highlight at that time was the Dale City Skating Rink on Smoketown Road. For the most part, we were left to our own survival skills and imagination to occupy our days.

It was during this time that we were introduced to McDonald’s Chicken McNuggets. One afternoon my best friend Tracey and I walked seven miles to the only McDonalds in the area to get a 20 piece order of McNuggets. The joy was in the journey. On our walk we talked, and sang and I believe a little dancing occurred. I am sure we are a legend…somewhere.

Fast forward to 2010, and my 13 year old son is spending his summer trying to occupy his time. You would think that with Potomac Mills Mall, Laser Quest and the local recreational centers, this would be easy. Yet, he seems as bored and restless as I was as a teen. My son’s biggest advantage is he has his own limo service. Well, actually it’s the Omni Link bus service.

Yes, public transportation is my son’s ticket to independence.

The freedom to get up and go is liberating for a teen. His playground just grew from our neighborhood to exploring the county.

Funny how we’ve come full circle, as I sit down to write this article, my 13 year old Man-child has entered our home. He left a few hours ago to take the bus to Checker’s to get some fries…much easier than walking seven miles, but I bet he didn’t even have a chance to sing and dance along the way.

He will have to become a legend during another adventure.

The Foosebumps are coming! The Foosebumps are coming!

2010-08-18T11:35:00.007-06:00

The Best Weekends begin on THURSDAY!

August 19th! Save the date!

Come and check out one of the best cover bands in our area! The Foosebumps will impress and give you one of the most enjoyable evenings out! Their specialty is covering rock tunes from the 70’s – 90’s.
This dedicated band is working on a CD titled “Rock-n-Roll Tradition” and will have video coming out soon!

So check them out now, so you can brag about it later!

Show will take place at: Yak-A-Doos located at 564 Warrenton Rd in Fredericksburg
NO COVER CHARGE!! Show is from 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. (21+)
You can call 540-899-5400.

*But wait! There's more!!*

Additional info on the band and upcoming shows -
ReverbNation

Next Show
Friday, Sept 10
8:30pm - late!
Sunset Grille
72050 Columbia Pike
Annandale, VA 22037
703-658-0928

The Day Steven Slater had the Jet Blues

2010-08-13T16:20:00.004-06:00

I am on Team Slater all the way! They say there are three sides to every story: "your side, my side and the truth"...so we have to give an margin of consideration that some of this is based on perception.... But even if the truth is close to this- I am amused and inspired. ....Not that I will vent at my employment and jump out the door- that would be -stupid!

I just love that he felt free enough to not hold back. Granted he may have been "fed up"..but there is still an energy of freedom to just say what you want to say without holding back based on HOW your words will be interpreted.

Additionally- these videos are too amusing! Not sure why the ended the story that Slater went home to go to bed with his boyfriend, when that is not really part of the story. But I love that he took TWO beers...Maybe one for him and his boyfriend- which you have to admit, is VERY, VERY thoughtful!!

Go Team Slater!!

Real Housewives of DC Kicks off TONIGHT!

2010-08-05T11:55:00.005-06:00

In the past I have made comments about “The Real Housewives” series. I have suggested that some if not all is fake. I have proposed that this kind of show makes us all JUDGE others. Who are we to look into the lives of these women to only get on the phone with our friends and pick their lives and choices apart? It’s wrong to judge other people…

Yep- these are comments that I have shared. And I meant every word and syllable. And still I watch. I have my “Real Housewives” watching down to a science now.

I am not really in to “The Real Housewives of Orange County” and manage to avoid when it came on, until the weekend repeats in heavy rotation on the weekends…

The “Real Housewives of Sex and the City” and the “Real Housewives of the Sopranos” keep my attention sporadically…but no chaos if I missed, as I know I will catch eventually. (*note the RHNY link above is a spoof....)

So far my favorite has been the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” mostly because it gave me the most laughs and quotable moments. What is better that “Who gonna check me Boo?!” ahh…good times… good times… (note: CHECK OUT the link! B. Scott's ATL Housewives interviews are THE BEST I have seen anyone do!)

But now…DC… The birth of GO-GO… Chocolate City… Home of Mayor for Life -Mr. “The B-word Set Me Up Berry” - is the newest location to join the Housewives colorful chaos and confusion.

It is assumed that the DC Bravo show’s will profile women who live in Maryland and Virginia… it is assumed that the show will not go into “DC taxation without representation”… it’s assumed that Chuck Brown or the annoying “Kiss my bumper” dude will not have a cameo… and still, I am looking forward to tonight’s show.

I have released all guilt of admitting this show is like all things I love even though it may be bad for me. I will be glued to the television, looking for familiar faces…tweeting my little heart out.

The “Real Housewives of DC”… are you ready to come out the “Housewives” closet and join me?

Libations time for American Idol

2010-07-29T18:04:00.012-06:00

First the ever so pleasant, yet truthful and usually correct Simon Cowell announced that he is not returning to American Idol. This news alone began the crumble of the shows foundation. Because let's face it, it was Simon's curt and snarky responses that we always ended up talking about with our friends and co-workers the next day. The only competition he had was when Paula was a judge

....oh...Aunty Paula... the Aunt with the "Special Happy Sauce" nearby...um, allegedly...The Aunt with a basket full of "Happy Pills" - I mean "Pain Medication"...OK, I'm digressing. My point is, even with her loopy ways, she added much color to the show. And she was truly super sweet. How could anyone every be angry with Paula? Really-it's like wanting to kick Bambi....Simon on the other hand, while my favorite, often came across as the very last person you would want to hear trying to talk you off of a ledge.

But it's one person. One judge. Well, it was- Now Ellen has heard the sinking ship theme music and has also announced that she too will be leaving the show. Ellen was on the show for only one season, and she did not make much of an impact. She remained in "special guest" mode the entire time. She tried to be sweet like Paula, she tried to be honest like Simon - but in the end she he was basically just one more judge in the way of allowing us to hear what Simon had to say. And I LIKE Ellen... so I'm not dogging her. She tried something new and it simply didn't work. And now she's done. She did the right thing- why be somewhere where you are not going to be happy? Plus she still has her successful daytime show. And her show will allow her the platform to critique and "judge" from her turf.

And as I conclude this....***BREAKING NEWS*** it is now rumored that Jennifer Lopez might be joining the American Idol panel... I know how many of my friends and Twitter friends adore J-Lo....but....let's hope and pray this is only a rumor.

But wait! There's more ***BREAKING NEWS***!! It is also rumored that Sean P-Diddily-Dee Combs is also in the running to join the AI crew..... Wait--- Could J-Lo and Piddy co-host the show? ...One or both of these HAS to be a rumor! And if not- plan to see Marc Anthony as the new "Entertainment" reporter or Seacrest sidekick so he can keep an eye on his wifey and her ex...

At what point can we call this date over?

At what point do we tell our company "You don't have to go home, but you have to get the heck outta here"? American Idol has been a favorite show of mine. But the truth of the matter is, it is now just one of many "talent" shows. And let's face it- most of what we see, can hardly be defined as "talented".

It is time that the Powers that Be give the "Do Not Resuscitate" cue and let this show Rest in Peace.

American Idol- we will miss you. It's time for you to go off to the happy rerun Heaven in the sky...it is my hope that the network does not make you into a Zombie and force you to continue for another season. ....American Idol....may you Rest In Peace....

Embracing the Good and Other Don't Worry Be Happy Secrets:

2010-07-27T18:05:00.015-06:00

How to we EMBRACE the GOOD?

My weekend was beautiful. I mean it was flawless. My wants are pretty basic. But I had alone time. I had quality time with my child and parents. I connected with some of my friends, and they are all safe and living their lives....perfect.
Sometimes when someone is sharing a story, they say something positive and they they'll say "knock on wood"...or if someone in a work environment makes a comment about how quiet or easy the day is going, someone almost always jumps into a panic and yelps "Don't say that! Don't jinx us!"

...at what point to we get to claim and appreciate the good?

The only consistent in our lives is that we are guaranteed to experience change. I know this to be true, because I hate change. And I use to always find myself surprised when life moved on without my consent and changed without my approval.

Thankfully, the change is not full of valleys and only valleys... as that would be a life of one downhill experience after another...and well, that would just suck! No, our lives have peaks as well. Good things happen. Great experiences occur. We laugh, we love, and sometimes, when all is going well...we breathe. I mean a deep cleansing we are at peace kind of breathing....*Whosah!*

I have had my Tour of Duty of being chained to the Valley.... they are to be expected. Being chained in the valley, creates an emotional anchor. It creates a roadblock preventing us from fully taking in every essence of our *positive moments*. It's a tug when we feel when all is going well, and then we pause and think, "What is going to go wrong next?" When serving time in the Valley, the goal is to collect the lesson(s) and get *THROUGH* as quickly as possible...

So what about the good times, the joyful days, the perfect moments? We need to saviour these gifts. We need to embrace each and every micro second. We need to give thanks, show appreciation and take in every moment. Not to mention these are the absolutely *BEST* times to create memories! I am in my own thoughts so much, that to have a wonderful data base of positive experiences beats anything I could ever find on the television (Confessions of a TV Addict # 27)

And while these "moments" can be the big things in life...I'm actually referring to the mini moments that rarely get the *gold star* attention. Simply like a sunrise...or a debit card being approved. Or moments that make you laugh like a humorous friend or one of the voices in your head. Hug and cling to these embryo-memories!

Harmony can be found in the ebb and flow of the moments. The best we can hope for is to have more smiles than frowns. More laughter than tears. When we are experiencing something good...something wonderful...something great - *CELEBRATE* and *REJOICE*. Do not feel the need to hush your joy! You deserve wonderful moments. We all do. To be happy is a blessing. Not something to tuck under a rock of inner shame or guilt.

My weekend was a wonderful and flawless weekend. Some may look at my weekend and say "Chel, you still have bills, you still have a kid who has a deficit preventing him from cleaning his room (apparently)..." ...my LIFE is not flawless, as I am a work in progress. I am growing. Can't avoid experiences when you are growing. (*Word! to people who think they are perfect*)

What I am sharing with you is a secret. One I wish I knew long ago. When I was youngER, I had an abundance of "happy moments"...yet, I was rarely present for them. I was always in the "what happens next?" zone. I never savoured and tasted each morsel the way I should have. Now I know better. Now I welcome the Good and Great Moments and Memories that I deserve... Now I say "BRING IT ON!!"

Maybe Bobby McFerrin was on to more than we might have given him credit for...maybe the song "Don't Worry Be Happy" as cheesy as it is...contains some key wisdom we can all use from time to time...

bobby mcferrin don't worry be happy

Top Five Reasons You Know He Doesn't Care About You! (B.Scott Wisdom)

2010-07-25T11:52:00.002-06:00

B. Scott is truly one of the most beautiful human beings I have ever seen. I am the biggest fan of his YouTube channel! Many of the videos I see from B, I find myself admiring how flawless his hair is, his perfectly applied lip gloss and make-up, etc...and I often think "So many women could learn a thing or two...or three or four from the wonderful B.Scott". And while there are many lessons B can teach us....I just couldn't watch this video without passing on right away.

One of my biggest concerns about my Sistah-Friends is how damaging our low self-esteem can be and the drama that it introduces into our lives..It's as if we beg and plead the DRAMA to run and catapult into our lives.

Too many of us create a life of dysfunction with the "man" we think we love. ... and maybe we do love...and maybe it is real...but maybe, just maybe what we women define as love does not match and/or is not compatible from what some men would define as love.

We all have been there at one point or another. The things that we would NEVER tolerate in public, sometimes turns into the treatment we accept in private.

...or maybe that's just me... my past....shadows from my journey....

Well, B. Scott's Vlog gives us a quick cheat-sheet that is vital to any foundation we will ever have with Mr. Right...Mr. Wrong.. Mr.BootyCall...Mr.DamnYouLookedCuteInTheDark...Mr.etc...

I have never had a good man in my life that I regretted connecting with... I have however, have cringed at some of the Guttah-Monkeys I have introduced to my Lifetime Biography script... And maybe that's Red-Flag #1 aiming for the Lifetime movie...maybe I need to aim for Disney, or Hallmark...Yes! because they have *Happy Endings!* ...maybe B.Scott will leave a vlog trail for us to follow...

READER's CORNER: PLATINUM by Aliya S. King

2010-07-23T13:01:00.006-06:00

It’s not a secret that I adore books! And I have been thinking about adding a “Reader’s Corner” feature to my blog. This is still going to happen as I know deep in my soul that you love books as much as I do!.... and if I’m wrong- you now have permission to lie to me- as I need to believe this!

So, along comes Aliya S. King on Twitter. We tweet. We follow. And I dig her. I make the worse type of fan, because I never know what people do, and I always feel that people are happy to meet me. So she enters my life with a clean slate. And the more I read her work, the more I enjoyed it. Many of my friends are writers. And many of them are stellar at their craft – but I don’t get to read a lot of their work for a variety of reasons. One thing I am adamant about is supporting artists.

Oh, to support an artist…one of the times where the heart is more eager than the wallet! But I try to support as often as I can. So I knew already that I was going to purchase Platinum. I had read tweets over the months and knew King's latest Novel-baby was due to arrive any day. My plan was to purchase, shelve it, as I was currently reading “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho, and figured I would get to Platinum later.

Until...I read the first page.

And just like that- I am all up in Beth’s business!

Why is she at the doctor’s office?

And is Z her rapper husband really a code name for a true life rapper?

So, needless to say, I have put “The Alchemist” aside for now, and am diving into “Platinum”!

Are you reading this too?

Let’s chat and dish and about it!!

Let me know if you think Beth should leave her husband, or if you can relate to what she is enduring…

Coffeebreak’s First Book Club! Join me in the discussion!

2010 Fifa World Cup Soundtrack - Your Side - John Forte

2010-07-07T14:01:00.002-06:00

I am a YOUTUBE-olic and every now and then, I come across a wonderful surprise. From time to time I will enter John's name in hopes of finding something posted that he has not seen yet. (Don't judge, everyone has a hobby, this mind! LOL)

So I was very happy to see this song posted "YOUR SIDE" by John Forte. It is beautiful. I have replayed a few times, and each time, I hear something different, each time a little more deeper than the first.

Check it out!

RACCOON ATTACKS BABY!

2010-06-30T16:52:00.001-06:00

There really isn't any logical reason to endorse this video. It's stupid.
And yet- the melody is ringing in my head, and I laughed. :)

When Jada Pinkett Smith Visits Twilight:

2010-06-28T16:27:00.009-06:00

When you think of Jada Pinkett Smith, we think Different World, we think of Will Smith, maybe Set It Off or HawthoRNe, but it's not likely we think of Metal.

This song "Bleed All Over Me"- is not ...horrible. I believe in the energy of words, so ewww! to the title, but the song itself is passable.

What I like most about this piece is, Jada is stepping out and doing what she wants. She is defining who she is. And not finding comfy corners in a box others create for her. I think to do this is very impressive. It is not easy to redefine yourself. Especially when many do not have a supportive circle.

I have been very lucky in that my friends in my small circle support me and my dreams. But I watch people, and I listen, and there are some major haters out there. Some answer to the title "friend". Les Brown speaks of reaching for his dreams and goals and finding some of the most intense resistance from his friends.

So Jada is a Rock Star... she could have failed. She could have been laughed off stage when she toured w/ Ozzy Osbourn. But she didn't. I am impressed and encouraged by the willingness to TRY. To reach for something that fills your spirit, regardless of how those around you feel. That's truly living. Truly being connected. And what most of us aim for.. or maybe it's just me...

Can't spell "Lumpectomy' Without "Lump" and "Tom" & Other Secrets I Learned Today:

2010-06-16T16:20:00.002-06:00

Lumpectomy. Radiation. ... Cancer - Three words I have gone my entire life without saying or at least without saying in one sentence. Over the next few weeks, the hyper sleuth in me will soon be an expert in all things Breast Cancer and Radiation. ...well not really, but I sure will think I am.
As the days flow forward, our little blog home will be a bit more personal. Right now, it's my way to examine what it is I'm talking about. I need to understand the mechanics of it all. See, the mechanics are easy. They do not become personal, or emotional, or sensitive to any personal want or need. The mechanics are just that - simple facts. Not there to hold or hug. Not there to give empathy or hope. Just the facts.
So- the facts so far are:

LUMPECTOMY:
Lumpectomy has "LUMP' and "TOM" in the word. Ok, that's kinda silly. But what I mean, is I try not to be one of those people who bring shame and embarrassment using mulit-syllable words. So this is my little mental reminder to recall how ot say and how to spell.
This is a great procedure, allows you to keep your breast. Makes a tiny scar. And you can still look cute and continue to seduce and be cute if you choose the proper bra. I bet some lumpectomy’s give you special powers to hypnotize to make all men say yes. My exclusion to women is not to leave out my Lesbian sister’s, but more to indicate that women are too smart to be lured in by the power of the boob.

RADIATION:
Kinda like Star Wars for the “bubbies” as the NJ Housewives would say. A laser tag of “ Get it! Zap it!”. The books say one thing and this video says another as far as the side effects go. What is likely is you will be nauseas and tired. What is possible is you will be in pain, your flesh may hurt etc. What it comes down to is no two bodies are the same. What will affect one may not affect the other. I do like how they explain radiation in this video. It is clear and does not scare the yikes out of you.

CANCER: Sucks.
Well, you know I say that because it’s easy to hate Cancer. To want to punch and hit and be violent to cancer like it was a slimy villain in a bad movie. But the survivors I have talked to found their journey through cancer to be one of Love and Healing. Of course it is not the journey anyone signs up for. But when your friend or loved one says “I have cancer”, all the little things instantly go away. All the excuses of I’ll call or visit later leave your life. When someone you know and love… or like.. or kinda dug has cancer – you never take your time or their time for granted. Everything including time looks different. Time feels different. In a loving and special way. It feels good to take time to show love. It can be a phone call, a card, helping with chores… whatever that proactive assistance looks like – this is love in action. And it feels good to be able to contribute anything- if only a small gesture. The secret is- there are no small gestures. Any effort that comes from the heart is huge. Enormous. Gigantic. ….and that feels so good.
So yeah, Cancer still sucks… but part of erasing Cancer is to Love it as much away as possible.

So that’s what I learned in today’s 101 class.

Protective Custody-Talib Kweli (New World Order)

2010-06-16T13:37:00.002-06:00

This has been out for a minute, but it's new to me and I'm really feelin' it. Pretty much an all star cast: Talib Kweli, John Forte, Tiye Phoenix, Breezly Brewn, Dante, El-P, Imani Uzuri, Jah-Born, Main Flow, Mr. Khaliyl, Mr. Len, and Punchline.

This is the type of piece you can listen to over and over, and hear something new each time. I tend to be very vocal on Twitter about my lack of joy over many artist that are considered 'hot' these days. So this Protective Custody gives me hope in hip hop's creative future.

Cancer backwards is Recnac:

2010-06-15T15:05:00.006-06:00

As the days unfold, I will have more entries addressing Breast Cancer. I will aim for these pieces to be inspiring, thought provoking and maybe if I am lucky funny, well if not funny, at least smile-worthy.

At this moment, at this writing, I am still processing what is sacred and personal and what I am ready to share. My best friend Tracey and I have over the past few months discussed putting together a book specifically for those who are friends and family of some amazing woman who has been diagnosed with Breast Cancer. Tracey has known too many friends and Angels who add Breast Cancer Warrior to their name. My list was much shorter. Not that is was a competition. Still, I was going to lean on Tracey’s expertise based on her experiences of her being an amazing friend to those in her life.

Our book in the making is to focus on “What to do?”. When someone we love is in pain, we feel this need to embrace them and make it go away. And the sad part is sometimes this is not an option we get. But what I believe we can do, is be there. Some people do nothing when a friend is going through a rough time, simply because they don’t feel helpLESS. Then you factor in Cancer, Hospitals, Treatments, possibility of hair loss, and in some cases the loss of life.

What can be done? Plenty.

And we will focus on this as the days unfold. The surprise I didn’t see coming was to be a member of this club, recruited against my own will. As someone I love dearly is now fighting this battle. Someone who I will easily give anything and everything to. For now, all I have to give is Time. I say “all”, but TIME and LOVE might be the two most precious gifts we can give. It is a blessing.

As I was searching the net, looking for “the” perfect website. Meaning, I saw some very helpful sites that gave a lot of information…but not “the” website, that spoke to me. Until I came across Circus of Cancer. This site is simple, and yet it is exactly what I need for right now.
I just watched the video of Kelly Corrigan reading her piece, and WOW! I am blown away. The love, no wait- that should be in caps… the LOVE that came from this piece, the photos of all the beautiful women, the honesty, and humor in Corrigan’s piece is priceless.
It’s the kind of piece we as writers hope for. The piece that speaks to the heart. Corrigan’s piece certainly did speak to my heart as I held back tears as I watched it.

Yesterday, I asked who will join me in Oprah’s Debt Diet … today, I ask, well, more accurately put- I welcome anyone who would like to join me in this journey to please do so.
I cannot cure Breast Cancer- yet.
But we can find a way to make these amazing ladies battle as smooth as possible.

(PS: As I came up with the Title: "Cancer Backwards in Recnac" - I found this site, it's focus is "taking the fear out of cancer"- I like that... http://www.recnacgifts.com/ )

Oprah's Debt Diet-- What say you?

2010-06-14T16:34:00.002-06:00

I have heard of Oprah’s Debt Diet over the years. I even found copies of her print out in my home when I was cleaning up, which is cute as I have no memory printing it out.
In many ways, I figured since I am anti materialistic, and I have no credit card dept or student loans, I figured, I wasn’t in “serious” trouble. But if I am being completely honest, this is a Broke Man’s (Woman’s) Mentality.

I never needed or desired abundance. My interests and desires are simple. I have never been one of those women who had to get the name brand.. anything. And still, what it comes down to is you get what you focus on. We manifest what we desire. I wanted “nothing” .. so you guessed it—I got nothing. (Creative expression for poor grammar..can’t afford proper grammar!)

So as I take stock of where I am. What I want. And more importantly, what I am showing my child about how to maintain his own finances. I am wiping the slate clean. Forgiving myself for where I am not; and reaching for where I feel I can soar to.

Is Oprah the way? Is the she answer? Geez, wouldn’t feel the need to pay her tithes! But she comes with a plan. Planning is a good thing.. I’m told. Any idea how hard it is for a free-spirit to plan? It’s like being conformed tightly in an itchy wool straight jacket.

I don’t want to budget. I hate math as much as I hate liver. I don’t’ want to track every penny I spend. And still, I will commit to doing so. I am pretty good at forgiving myself. I have mastered a life in lack. This way of thinking is like an emotional redemption for an injustice I never committed. Single mother guilt, perhaps. Not having the status I thought I would at this stage in my life? Maybe.
Regardless of where this well intentioned pity party came from. The bottom line is, it’s not about me anymore. I have a 13 year old young man, watching my every move.

My commitment to my son, was I cannot teach you how to be a man, but I can teach you how to be responsible, and respectful. I can teach you how to be a good person who has a good life. And as much as I want to dance, run and hide around it- maintaining personal finances is a core part of this promise.

I am rolling up my sleeves and going in! … are you willing to join me? We don’t have to do this alone…

Thinking about Gary...

2010-06-08T16:28:00.002-06:00

I never met Gary Coleman or his wife.

Never Tweeted them, connected with them on Facebook, Myspace or snailmail.
And there is every chance that Gary Coleman and his wife would not be on my mind at this moment if Gary had not recently passed away.

I do not know the exact circumstances that led to Gary’s falling, which ultimately led to his death. However, I have listened to the 9-1-1 call, and it is very tragic on many levels.

Gary’s persona as an adult was a sad, ornery and bitter kind of guy. Maybe this was all for show? But he sure did ace the acting for this salty kind of image. And still, I feel a twinge of pity for him. Gary Coleman is easy to pity. Stage parents who robbed him of his hard earned money; not being taken seriously as an actor….or grown man in many ways – forever the “WhatchuTalkinBout Willis?” child

But I pity Gary the most for not knowing true love. Humans are more connected in this subject than not. What attributes we are attracted to can vary, but all in all, we generally want to be loved and to love without conditions and in abundance. This man was not loved by his wife/ex-wife/girlfriend. (uhm..I feel, my opinion, allegedly, hypothetically- anything I need to say to not be sued).

This 9-1-1 tape along with some recent interviews shows very odd and bizarre woman. And maybe she is incapable of love. Maybe she had a rough childhood and maybe her puppies were possessed and held her captive as a child. We know why Gary was off beat; we don’t know why this woman is off.

And even saying all of this- it is not my intent or my place to judge. However, as a human –it is my intent and place to love.
And when I see love being manipulated and tainted, it makes me sad.
To spend your life with someone who does not love you, who treats you badly, who doesn’t value your life—ugh, who cannot be bothered to come to your aid because “blood makes you queasy” is simply not living. Truly not worth it. And more importantly it blocks you from connecting with that one person who is your destined Soul Mate. Who we choose to share our personal space with is a very deep and sacred choice we make. And as precious as this decision is – not possible if we do not love ourselves first.

R.I.P. Gary Coleman. For anyone who has taken the time to read this- LIVE in peace and love. And if you are sharing your space with someone who might one day create a reason to call 9-1-1 on your behalf, for whatever the reason.. please leave and find true love and peace elsewhere. It does no good, if I value your life more than you do….

oil on the shore - John Forte collab project feat Trillion

2010-06-04T15:01:00.002-06:00

I know I am very behind with my "daily" blog entries. And I thank YOU so much for your patience as I manifest a laptop! :) Meanwhile, the world is struggling to find it's balance between peace & chaos....

BP has made their abudnant contribution to the chaos, now we need to step up and contribute Peace.

Check out this very deep video by the extremely talented John Forte' which captures the oil spills tragedy in an moving and impactful way....

Peace & love to you... michelle

formspring.me

2010-01-28T18:03:00.001-05:00

What's the origin of your Twitter name?

I work at a newspaper, and was trying to pitch a Blog concept and thought of "CoffeeBreak". Blog didn't get picked up. So I started a blogspot blog and Coffeebreak was taken.. use to be Coffeebreak8 ..also taken on blogspot...so since I live in the DC/MD/Va area.. CoffeeBreakDMV was born. :)

Ask me anything

formspring.me

2010-01-26T09:47:00.001-05:00

What is your nationality?

I'm a melting pot baby. My biological father is African American his parents are/were Jewish. My biological mother is Native American. I was adopted and raised by an African American father and a Caucasian British mother. ::cue in We are the World::

Ask me anything

formspring.me

2010-01-25T14:27:00.001-05:00

Do you want to be buried or cremated?

I was recently thinking about this. I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread at various places on Mother Earth.
I plan to talk to my family about this. They are "visit the grave site" folks, and I don't feel that's where one should go to visit me...#WaveAtAButterfly #HugTheWind :)

Ask me anything

formspring.me

2010-01-12T15:10:00.001-05:00

Do you reach out to Da Boi's father for his involvement or has that been unsuccessful?

Since Da Boi was an infant I have reached out. At one point asked just show up even if you have no money. I chose a very negative human to have a child with. Few years back we tried again, and the few days he was involved with my son, it was toxic and very damaging to da Boi.
So yes- I did reach out, and yes has been deeply unsuccessful.

Ask me anything

Santa’s a Single Mom

2009-12-24T15:11:00.003-05:00

As far back as I can recall my Christmas memories are filled with believing in Santa, and waking up to a room full of beautifully wrapped gifts.

The entire room seemed to burst with perfectly chosen toys and candies. No wonder it would be near impossible to fall asleep the night before.

Instead of counting sheep, I would say “Happy Birthday” from my bed to all the toys & stuffed animals I received the years before.

Fast forward.

Most if not all the steps I chose for my own life are very much the opposite of the life I witnessed from my parents. My son has never known what it feels like to wake up to Mom and Dad on Christmas morning…or any morning for that matter.

As a Single Mother and sole provider for my child, Christmas time is especially hard.

By December many of us are just getting on our feet. Money in the bank, everything paid in full…sorta kinda.. To then turn around and spend a bundle on gifts.

I’m not materialistic. The Meaning of Christmas is remembered. And still, there is a degree of guilt and pressure to give my son the type of Christmas morning memories I had as a child. I wanted my son to have that element of surprise and giddy glee from the wrapping paper flying in the air at a speed of light.

And now my son is 12 years old.

My son’s Wish List is shorter, but twice as costly. The Leap Pad games have been replaced for Play Station something or another.

Looking back, I wish to send this letter to Single Moms just starting out. As I wish I knew then what I know now:

DO NOT STRESS OVER HOW MANY GIFTS YOUR CHILD HAS ON CHRISTMAS!

Your child can have one gift under the tree and it will mean everything.

Please hear me when I tell you, what will be part of their memory is the feeling and vibe you create in your home.

My son knows on Christmas morning, we will light a candle to sing “Happy Birthday” to Jesus. He knows that we will play some games and watch a movie with popcorn.

The foundation of our children’s memories will always be the time we spend together.

It is not about how abundant the wrapped gifts are under the tree.

More importantly Single Moms. Please know that your journey has purpose.

If you can relate to the guilt I had, please love yourself right here and now and RELEASE it all!

If you are investing time in your child and your child hears that you love him every day. Then you raise your head and allow yourself to be proud of all that you have accomplished to get to this exact moment in time.
Much Love & Peace to you! And Merry Christmas!

When Rose Colored Glasses Try to Break:

2009-12-17T17:34:00.005-05:00

More and more I am seeing horrific stories when I read or watch the news. I often joke about living life with “rose color glasses” as this describes my perception very accurately.

My rose color glasses do not block out injustice. Issues such as homelessness and starvation remain in view of my mind’s eye.

The benefit to these mighty fine glasses is that my mind stays in a rotation of problem solving. In my mind, there is no reason for there to be homelessness and hunger.

And my mind often teams up with my heart trying to find a solution.

While I feel deep down that these matters can be resolved. Some events happen that are so tragic, I have no idea where the healing could possible begin. The young pregnant mother in the Maryland homeless shelter who was abducted and the woman who abducted her attempted to cut out her baby… and in today’s paper, there was a story of an 8 year old girl who was gang raped by a group of kids, the eldest being 15 years old.

These are only two stories in a very torn and bruised world. And these two stories make me yearn for solutions. Wish for magical fairies that could erase these nightmares from being a part of anyone’s journey.

I find myself frustrated that I cannot heal the emotional scars of those whose burdens are unequivocally branded into innocent souls.

My search for solutions creates a void of confusion. The “Why?” is what stumbles my thoughts each and every time. As I meditate and pray for solutions of healing I have learned that the following must be elements of the healing process:

We must CARE:

This is an absolute necessity. We cannot allow our hearts to get numb. Our sense of connectedness and community must be authentic in order to establish a strong and unshakable bond.

We must be KIND:

Could you or I being kind prevent the two examples of tragedy mentioned above? Perhaps not. However, what I know and what I believe is if we treat each other with compassion and kindness it will create a chain event of kindness. Skeptics would back-flip to prove that kindness would not heal the world. What I’m saying is that it is a start to the beginning of the healing process. I often tell my son that “hurt people hurt.” If you have someone who does not love and respect themselves, it is ridiculous to expect them to be capable of showing love & respect to anyone else.

We must LOVE:

Love is a MUST.

I don’t have quick solutions. And I know that our lives and our experiences matter. These mini-answers may not lead to a quick fix, but if they could lead to any fix, any amount of healing, any amount of empowerment and inspiration…then it would be well worth it.

The Beginning of My Journey aka Day One:

2009-12-15T18:08:00.003-05:00

Sunday kicks off a 30-day Blogfest!
Sounds exciting? … well, it is, but it was to begin this past Sunday (Dec 13), and at this writing I’m 3 blogs behind.

Ohhh, now my skeletons are exposed. Which reveals, I have little desire to be locked in all things time and deadline related. So much about my world is at “go with the flow” status; specifically an ebb & flow of events. I am very happy living my life this way.

Except- I exist with other people, and for there to be results, structure, and more importantly success…there has to be some diligence in respect of time and order. To accept this is like wearing a fabric that offends my sense of touch. And still, because I do wish to achieve my dreams, and I understand that in order to do so, I will need to show and prove to others and myself that I can be counted on to follow through, to respect time and deadlines…I submit.

Such a simple thing. Yet, a small joyful childlike part of me weeps to conform. Like a rash on my energy.

I suppose this is what being an adult is. Right?

If you are reading this. Thank you for joining me on my 30 day quest. Some say my life is interesting. I feel there’s a fine line between interesting and dysfunction. Either way, I value your company on this journey and ask you to share your own along the way.

Carly Simon - You Belong With Me - Live Today Show 10/28/2009

2009-10-28T15:30:00.001-05:00

One of my all time favorite songs!
Carly Simon is a musical icon. She has a beautifully flawless talent to put pen to paper and create magic.
I tend to resits change...and was bracing when I heard there was a remake...but when I knew musician John Forte' was adding his talents, I knew there would be nothing to worry about.
And I suppose I should collect the lesson that ...change is guaranteed.. and can be very good!
I hope you enjoy this video as much as I have.

In The Key Of Me:

2009-08-28T14:01:00.006-06:00

my desire for youis insatiable
i come to you humble & hurt
laying my soul at your feet
pouring teaspoons of life down my throat,
you leave my spirit quenched

if i told you - i love you,
would the sound be like every woman's song,
would you play me the same way,
moving my hips to the same beat,
filling my climaxes that sing in the same key

would you shatter the promises never having a chance to live
or gently embrace my wings
that never had a chance to fly

my tongue tracing your pulse to the peak of unforgettable memories
your body feels poetic as thighs touch, lips meet, & whispers capture shadows,
dancing in the candle's light

bind my hands with french-twist kisses
you blindfold my eyes so i can see
the need in you~illuminating~stimulating the love the woman in me

if i tell you, how much i need you,
would you dip my spirit in honey,
drench my thoughts in dreams,
caress my journey to completion

as i try to become part of you
if i collect all my 'ifs' & submit them to the man in you
would you place them in pretty packages
taking me from this land of madness,
this abyss of confusion
would you bring me into a corner of your world
where i can sleep with fists unclenched
where i can trust the noises in the night

the life in me gives birth to the beauty we create
where we harmonize on the beat,
release in the blue note of ecstasy
this is my song for you~
~in the key of me...

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E Lynn Harris: We will Miss You. We Love You.

2009-07-24T16:40:00.001-06:00

Today I heard the sad news that phenomenal author Mr. E. Lynn Harris has passed away.
So many wonderful souls seem to be making a pilgrimage to Heaven these days, it is hard for the mind and emotions to keep up.

With each passing, it forces me to reflect. Sometimes I do not want to reflect. I want to find joy in my daily routine.
Made it to work on time- check; paid my bills on sorta kinda time - check … but when someone who has inspired you passes. We have to reflect. Take stock in our lives. What are we doing with our time, and are we making a difference… do we want to make a difference? Goals. Dreams. Saying good-bye always turns to self reflection.

E. Lynn Harris passed away. To be honest, my mind and heart is still dizzy thinking of Michael Jackson. However, it was just yesterday, I thought of Mr. Harris. I was in my own private Heaven aka Borders Books, and I saw a huge display of his newest book “Basketball Jones”, and though of the last time I saw him at a book reading.

A friend of mine asked me about E. Lynn and his work. And then it occurred to me. I have read E. Lynn’s work over the years. But what I gravitated to was HIM. How I loved to be able to catch him at a book reading. He was so charming. Candid. Honest. Funny. E. Lynn’s energy is the type of energy you just want around. Like if he is in the same house with you, you just feel at peace; no need to be in the same room.

I adore knowledge of self. And he was a rock star of know exactly who he was.

Missing E. Lynn is different than missing Michael. Grief and sadness is not measured in “more or less” increments. We miss or we don’t. We love or we don’t. We never shared a home, but we shared this life, and it just felt nice knowing that he was there. Knowing he was on a book tour meant, he would be passing by eventually, and I would sit shoulder to shoulder with others to listen and freeze during question time. Some people just have that abundance of JOY that makes this life feel good. Mr. E. Lynn Harris had an abundance of this light… of this joy…. And he will be deeply… deeply missed.

Michael Joseph Jackson - Live in Peace:

2009-07-07T16:51:00.007-06:00

Michael Joseph Jackson (August 29, 1958 – June 25, 2009)

As I write this I find myself angry with Michael Jackson.

Michael Jackson singing has defined snapshots of my life like a photo album. As lead singer of the Jackson 5, my Saturday mornings were made perfect by Sugar Corn Pops, learning about Conjunction Junction, and watching the Jackson 5 cartoon show.

As a teen age girl, it was my best friend Tracey who adored Michael Jackson. Her room was plastered with his pictures. My room was plastered with Prince. Mike was in a yellow cardigan, with a wholesome smile; Prince was in a bikini standing in the shower. I laugh thinking how our choices in men would follow us into adulthood. But Tracey possessed all things Michael. Notebooks, posters, magazines, whatever propaganda she could get her hands on with his smiling face she was soon to be in possession of.

And it is because of her love for all things Michael that I was able to see him perform. The day Tracey’s mother gave birth to her little brother; her Step-father stopped by the hospital, and then took us to see the Jacksons! This was during the time of “Can You Feel It”, which soon became on of my favorite songs.

So when I heard the buzz that something could be wrong with Michael. I didn’t’ know what to make of it. I work at a newspaper, and as I left I asked one of the editors “what in the world is going on” and she confirmed that the rumors were indeed true. Something was wrong with Michael. By the time I drove home the story had been confirmed by one radio station after another that Michael Jackson…the King of Pop – was dead at the age of 50.

I found myself more wrapped up in keeping friend Tracey updated with the details as they poured in, as my mind was still in ‘work’ mode.

It would take days for this tragedy to sink in and pierce my heart. Days of watching the world weep on television. Days of hearing the media find the most subliminal way to get their dirt into the story. Days of seeing every music video and news piece air in heavy rotation.

And I tweet. I talk. And when I feel I chose to avoid.

Why do I care he passed away? He would never know my name. We would never chat on the phone. Our kids would never play together. And still, his passing has impacted me and my emotions as deeply as a family member. And to be honest, this impact has surprised and confused me, and gives me a tremendous amount of empathy for those that did know him personally.

The day after Michael’s passing, I was listening to the radio. Donnie Simpson was interviewing Usher. In the middle of Usher responding to a question, he lost all composure and wept heavily. He wept as a man with a hurt over losing a dear friend. Immediately after the interview I heard “Looking Through the Window” which is definitely one of my top favorite songs. This one two- punch was all I needed to lose possession of my tears. Alone in my car, I wept for the first time over Michael. Not a cute composed cry. A Halle Berry winning the Oscar ugly cry.

Mike’s passing is more than an entertainer dying. He was the soundtrack to every moment in my life. Upon any song with his, and I can tell you how life was from childhood to adulthood. Without evening knowing it, he was some sort of anchor in my life. This is probably the source of my anger.

I want to write “he wasn’t supposed to die yet”. But I do believe that our Creator has a reason for all. I feel that Michael was still on his journey. And in this phase of life he was suppose to collect his lessons and move on, survive, and one day share the wisdom collected. It is near impossible to accept that this is the way Mike’s life was supposed to end. I suppose it would be more accurate to say hurt and frustration instead of anger. My confession is I was not ready for Michael to pass.

The soul lives on. I believe this completely. Michael Jackson has known fame, fortune, chaos, confusion, and love….and now peace. I do not care for the phrase “Rest in Peace”. I believe our souls soar in abundance when we pass from here. So with that, I will make one request: Live in Peace! Michael Jackson, Live in Peace!

Note: Here are some blogs from writers who I admire, I am going to read their Michael pieces, but needed to write before I read. I know I am going to like them a lot, and wanted to share, as I'm sure you will also. Peace & Love...

* Bassey Ikpi Facebook Fan page.
* Kim Wayans: http://kimwayans.com/blog/

How would you defne Personal Freedom (Twitter Tues)

2009-06-12T16:03:00.004-06:00

This week’s “IF” Question was:
IF you were to define what true personal freedom is, what would you say?

This answer can be taken in a variety of ways and from a variety of perceptions. The answer would be equally deep from a woman trapped in a relationship she doesn’t want to be in; or from a Free Spirit who is confined with responsibilities and obligations.

I can’t help but think of the two American journalists Euna Lee, Laura Ling who were sentenced to 12 years of hard labor in a North Korea prison. As I write this I am choosing to be very optimistic, that these two ladies will be released expeditiously. But the time they have already served, must feel like an eternity. To be imprisoned unjustly should in itself be a crime. While North Korea is finding comfort in making a joke of what we call exaggeration, the prison system in the United States has this weight in common as well, as not every soul in prison has committed a crime. To rip away someone’s ability to step into the sun and jump in the rain is a torturous act.

What is personal freedom? It is being allowed to be you without judgment and confinement; to be able to love and laugh out loud. To be able to love whomever we choose without it becoming a political platform. Personal freedom is the freedom to be the person you are, and for that to be joyfully embraced.

As always, the replies that came back from the Twitter Fam was on point and optimistic:

PoeticMind True personal freedom is being fearless of the unlimited opportunities and potentials.

mysskay When your life reflects your passions, when your time is spent with ppl and on things you love and you're not bound by fear.

MichaelDreyer Having resources to do what you want when you want. Read More.

ReinaMarielena Hi! Personal freedom=being in the will of God.

Sugarloaf48 Personal freedom is often times finding that putting ur best foot fwd is stepping out on the ft you recently brk

sambrooklyn The ability to think, act, speak, and live the way you choose without judgment or consequence. He abiltt to just "do you".

StateOfMariland Twitter: my voice @ TheWorld as a sovereign entity: the state of MariLand the essence of true personal freedom.

From the book: IF...Questions for the Soul.

In My Life Time - by Ras Baraka & Michelle Bond

2009-06-04T15:17:00.006-06:00

In my life time
I witnessed children’s hopes dismissed by
low expectations and their pain nurtured by hood dreams.
I watched from crowded by lonely corners…

I watch from corners filled with lonely dreams.
My tears name every bullet,
dilute every blood stain…still in my life time,
this time of life – hope still remains…

Hope still remains in laughter falling from project windows,
children splashing through puddles with wet socks and forgotten yesterdays.

Dancing a today tune all over their tomorrows,
desperately waiting for someone to show them the quickest way to the rest of the world…

Desperately wanting a world that will not let them rest.
Optimistically reaching for a tomorrow that rejects them.
Running to their futures with battered souls and bruised spirits.
They chant ancient chants, waiting to hear that they matter,
They chant ancient chants, wanting to hear that we care…

They run in circles that grow larger
Getting uniformed and erratic.
Trying to drown out the silence of neglect,
showing themselves to the world as they are.
We frown, we cry, we half smile in amazement.
We watch as they wait no longer and we see them in all their terribleness…Mr. President,
...Yes?

They no longer need to wait
As they carry their baggage over the bridge of One Day
And step from the world of can’t into a life of can.

Greatness waits for them,
As they lasso dreams into reality
One time, one life, one world
They are ready!

(My 1st collaboration piece,with the wonderfully talented Mr. Ras Baraka)

How Would You Define "Soul Mate"? (Twitter Tues)

2009-06-03T15:51:00.004-06:00

This week’s question was:
IF you were to define the term "soul mate." how would you do it?

I use to think that Soul Mate meant “the one and only love of your life.” I use to think that once you found your soul mate it was instantly destined for you two to be together forever and ever…and ever.

A part of me still clings to this theory, as I am a hopeless romantic.
I found someone who was my best friend. We were totally attracted to each other mentally, physically and spiritually.
And still we could not…can not make “it” work.
This man stands out from the rest, as he is the only one who makes me laugh tears. He challenges me mentally as we debate. He is THE most attractive man I have laid my eyes upon. And one of the best musicians I have ever known…or heard of.
And still we could not…can not make “it” work.

I am open to the theory that we may have more than one Soul Mate. I am open to the logic of loving more than one person deeply.

To me, to define the term “soul mate” I would simply say: The soul(s) that connects with your soul.

I am encouraged that many of the Twitter replies were very sweet and optimistic:

Marcia_Sinclair Soul mate = BFF

ReinaMarielena Soul mate=best friend. No need to pretend with this person and loves you flaws and all.

jonubian I just want tenderness, kindness, thoughtfulness, and intelligence. Nothing else really matters.

SpeaksBeliefs who is your soul mate? / the one love who is your peace / in midst of chaos /// #haiku

tamtamdoll Sum1 u can C urself floatn thru eternity with

StateOfMariland "soul mate": the 1 u can be ur real self with.. inspiration for india.arie's song "he heals me"

ctyler1420 My "soul mate" is the one who I can fall into her eyes and bathe in the love that's there.

iamkksolovely Soulmate = someone that helps me be the best I can and loves me during the process.

KingMars_worded the individual that would never hold u up from making progress.The one who would understand u completely.Despite differences

Questions from the book: If...Questions for the Soul.

TWITTER TUESDAY: IF...Questions for the SOUL:

2009-05-27T13:38:00.007-06:00

This week’s “IF” question was:

IF you were to write your own epitaph today, what would it say?

It’s been a very interesting past few days where death and the meaning of life are concerned. After 19 years I wrote about my brother Geno’s death, and while it was cathartic, it was very meaningful to receive such compassion and support from those who read the article.

Yesterday, Mike Tyson’s 4 year old daughter
Exodus passed away from a tragic accident at home. To compare the life of a 4 year old to a 31 year old is not so much about the comparison as the impact.
Do we mourn deeper over who we had the most memories with, or who we had the most hope for?

Whom is the epitaph for?

I am of the belief that we are as Wayne Dyer says “Souls living a human experience.” I believe that once we leave here, our souls live on. I do not pretend to have all the answers…or any answers, but I do feel very certain about this.
The epitaph is not for the Soul that has moved on. It’s for us who are left behind still working and exploring our own journey.

To date- this is my favorite Twitter Tuesday “If Question”! The responses that came back are snarky, deep, funny and meaningful. Love ‘em!

If, I were to write my own epitaph today, it would say:
She lives in the soul of the butterfly. Namaste.

Some replies that came back from Twitter Friends...

matthewmilam Here lies a crazy motherfucka.

kojobaffoe He was a man, no more ordinary nor extra-ordinary than the next man.
13ft I'm still not convinced there's an afterlife.

Sugarloaf48 I didn't toot my own horn while I was here, so don't listen for it, now...I am following a different horn, now...Bye

LarryFlick "He always tried his best. He got it right a little more than half the time."

SpeaksBeliefs He wasn't a perfect man, but he loved & this guided all actions.

naturallyalise Can't no epitaph hold Alise, she lived!"

KCPL "We told him not to." Lmao

jonubian Epitaph: She lived her life fighting for freedom, not because of hate- but because of love.

StateOfMariland Gonna think on that epitaph... of course, it could just say she was a sweet potato surprise..lol

racheltrue 'Still needed to lose those pesky extra 10+ lbs, will be missed.” Wow, sorry, I can't answer this seriously, will examine why…

DiggsWayne My epitaph to be spoken as my ashes are spread: "Good boys go to heaven...Bad boys go everywhere."

sambrooklyn that I was blessed and highly favored with a life full of love and splendid happiness.

From the book: If...Questions for the Soul.

Saying Good-Bye to Geno. (R.I.P. 1959-1990):

2009-05-24T01:15:00.006-06:00

What does someone's life mean when they are flawed?

Does their life mean any less than the Honor Roll student? Are they missed as much as the celebrity who overdosed? Do we shed more tears for the Corporate Business man, with a wife, 3 kids and a dog?

If you go by the empathy level of the local news anchor, the answer would be a very strong "Maybe to Likely."

My older brother Geno was a hot mess.
Drank too much. Smoked too much weed. Lived too hard.
And he was deeply loved by all who knew him.
The flawed never get the "isn't a shame they left this world too soon" tone from any reporter.

But if you knew my brother Geno.
You would have hoped to have been his friend.
He was quiet to those he didn't know.
To witness his humor and bass of his laughter was like a ticket to the VIP seats. I cling to what echoes of his laughter I can still force my mind to replay.
My brother Geno was a funny and intelligent man.

The Son:

Geno was my parent's first born child.
He was born in England in 1959. My dad was in the US Air Force and moved back to the States a year later.
There is something so wrong, when a parent has to bury their child.
I have a great relationship with the Universe. However, I will never be able to wrap my mind around this. It's wrong and unfair to have any parent endure this levy of pain.

My Mom recalled a conversation she had with Geno shortly before his death. She feels as though "he knew." Her evidence of someone's death coming soon, was a bird had flown into the shop she and my dad owned a few days before.
This is easily debatable as superstition.

Superstitions that look like they could be true only occur in my family?

The Father:

Geno's daughter has been the light of our family since day one.
She was around 5 years old when he was murdered. I remember being at home, while my parents went to the hospital, and my niece lay asleep upstairs.
It was around midnight.
Quiet.
Still.
All of a sudden, Angel, my ex-husband's white Chow-Chow gets up and runs out the kitchen to the front door. As she darted back and forth. She was focused. And just as suddenly as she started - she stops in her tracks.
Complete abrupt halt!
Angel sat at the bottom of the steps that led to the bedrooms upstairs, and my ex-husband and I watched her head gradually move from lower left, all they way to upper right.
We never moved.
My ex-husband was sitting on the recliner with me, as he was consoling me.
We both sat in silence.
When Angel's glare reached the top of the steps, I whispered "Geno's saying good-bye to his little girl."

Dogs who show supernatural communications, only exist in my family?

The Husband:

If you read my brother's obituary. It will say he had a wife. And even though he was married. I believe we all considered my nieces mother his real true love.
We never doubted her love for him. We never doubted his love for her.
But flawed men love in a dysfunctional cadence. It's raw and passionate, but always dramatic. Many women must choose to love themselves and not bury their light in exchange for the few good days a flawed man can offer.
My brother was the perfect candidate to attempt The "Love the Good into a Man" Plan.
This plan requires the art form and skill many women poses. We feel that if our love is deep and real enough, we can heal and motivate the man into responsibility, into employment, into sobriety...you name the dysfunction, and there is a woman who will try to "Love Away" the targeted flaw.

What's not fair about this is, it never works that way. Eventually we women, figure that out, and "move on"...except..no other man will compare. And we are forced to sacrifice the insatiable, soul mate connection we have in exchange for peace and security...which can be boring.. but it's PEACE AND SECURITY!

It's just my family who has someone who falls in love with a man that is not capable of loving back in a way we deserve?

The Brother:

I was raised with two brothers. Their name merged into one many times "Geno-and-Jr." It was very common to expect to hear their names chained together like handcuffs. They were 9-11 years older than me.
Jr and I would often bicker...a lot. Geno and I not so much.
Now that I am older. I find myself with some regrets. But I am glad to have had such a great husband at the time. To this day my ex-husband and I are friends. But it was through his friendship with my brothers, that created the bridge for me to be friends with my brothers.
My ex-husband and my brothers created a Def Comedy Jam session whenever they were together. As long as they had beer and weed. Life was good. And they spent a great deal of time...laughing.
I don't smoke and I don't drink. So if there was little reason for them to come hang with ME. But my ex-husband and my brothers. They were a riot. I acted like I was annoyed at the time with these three grown men laughing like wild kids.
The dozens, reached a whole new level with these cats.
And it is these moments that I cherish most from my marriage.

It's just me who has funny men in the family who drink & smoke weed?

The Day:

Damn. I was rolling and in that happy place... but "the day"... has me drenched with an abundance of tears offered for libations.
How do you write about someone who has died? Someone you loved. Someone you grew up with?
I can tell you that it was a Saturday afternoon.
That Geno was at the home of the killer. They were playing cards. The killer's wife had said something. Probably "You grown men need to get out my house"... but I'm just speculating on what a wife might say. Whatever she said, led to Geno teasing the killer about "who wore the pants in the family."

A fight broke out.

Geno was in shape. He didn't fight often. But always won when the occasion presented itself. He was old school, meaning if he fought you, it would be with his fists.

They fought.

It was broken up. It was Memorial Day weekend. Cookouts, kids playing outside. Sunny day. No need for a fight to bring everyone down.
It was a done deal. Over.

Geno and the killer went their sperate ways.

Hours later, Geno went across the street and on his way back his killer had a gun. It's the "hours later" part that earned the killer a "Premeditated Murder" charge. The killer was running down the street with his child and wife screaming behind him.
Kids were out and scattered.
Geno was front of his home.
Had Geno just gone into the house...everything could be different.
But he chose to not be afraid, and was trying to creep up behind him.
The details are fuzzy. As I believe there was a tussle.
The details are not fuzzy in that the killer shot my brother in the back of the head.

I find myself conflicted, as my path of life at this stage is very harmonious.
Peaceful.
Loving.
Still, the only title for this piece that came to mind was "Fuck that Nigga That Shot my Brother!"

"Oh my!" some might say....such harsh language.
Well, as a writer, I am not of the belief that words are "bad."
I feel it's our intention and energy behind the words that makes them potentially unacceptable. And the "N-word" is specific. And a matter I will dive into another day.
The truth is, I want to use pretty words. I want to feel pretty thoughts. And in most areas of my life I do.
But I haven't figured out how to make blood and death pretty.

...is it just me?

TWITTER TUESDAY: IF... Questions for the SOUL:

2009-05-20T15:59:00.003-06:00

Twitter Tuesday "IF" QUESTION of the day: IF u were to finish the sentence 'My destiny has always been___,' how would it end?"

This question was much easier to ask, than to answer. Especially, as we live in a world where for many they only what can be seen is considered fact. Leaving little value for what is felt.

I do believe we each have a destiny.

I believe our journey is about finding our way there. Why do some people love the arts and others love numbers? Why do some love corporate jungles and others the forest?
We are drawn to who we are destined to be.

My destiny is to be creative. To put myself in a position to outreach and assist…more than likely in troubled countries such as Darfur.
To have a destiny and grow towards it is a choice. We still have to work and put ourselves in a position to align ourselves.

That tug, that inner voice…that is the invisible cord that I feel pulls us towards our life’s purpose..our destiny.

Some Twitter friends took the time to answer this question, and gave some excellent answers!

ScoopEmUp ...to live beyond my destiny.

13ft No such thing as destiny. That implies a preplanned universe = you have no choice anyway =not be able 2 deviate or think.

SundayTalkShow 2 have a talking platform, used 2 get n trouble n school 4 always talking, rents shoulda picked up on it then.
Note 2 parents: ur child my not B behaving N school but give them an outlet 2 channel that NerGy & I bet they'll improve.

ReinaMarielena destiny has always been to sing-it would end me singing at the MET & having a performing arts center for inner city youth.

DiggsWayne ...destined.

PoeticMind My destiny has always been to help others out in the medical field.

_DCKEV_ 'My destiny has always been to make sure that everyone I come across I leave a good Impression"

JeaneEBennett: To travel the world.

DCDiva28 My destiny has always been eluding me. I dream a dream and it fades before it is attained. My doing or destiny? Not sure.

From the book: IF…Questions for the Soul.

WILD WOMEN WEDENSDAY: GOALs & RELATIONSHIPs

2009-05-13T09:16:00.006-06:00

WILD WOMEN WEDENSDAY: UPDATED WITH REPLIES:
Is where we turn to each other for advice and wisdom to encourage and uplift each other in our life, dreams and goals.

This week, two of our Friends are asking for advice…

QUESTION #1: ATTN: PR + MKT + BLOG EXPERTS

Our Friend SundayTalkShow needs advice on how to get PR/Marketing help for her show AND how to monetize her Blog to generate income.
If you are able to network with our Friend, please leave your contact information.

ANSWERS:

DonnaSpeaks My email address is: info (at) DonnaLJohnson (dot) com. I can offer up insight about PR. I do my own at the moment.

CoffeebreakDMV Thank you Donna for connecting with SundayTalkShow ! Networking is very powerful, and it only takes one contact to allow an abundance of dreams and goals to flourish. I would also contact local businesses in your area, they may be willing to pay you for your services. I know great things are ready to come your way! I wish you much success!

QUESTION #2: ATTN: LOVE & RELATIONSHIP WISDOM NEEDED

Our Friend needs wisdom on how to LET GO of a judgment placed on her by someone she wanted to share a relationship with.
HOW does she release the pain & not let if affect her perception of LOVE and relationships?

ANSWERS:

BLKMGK Don't try to let go or get over it too soon. Pain is sometimes good for the soul and a great teacher.

CoffeebreakDMV My first response to you is to be thankful for this experience. Release any anxiety of baggage it may create. That is down the road, and you will be empowered enough that this will not be your issue.
Life a DIVA "WORK"!
Work what you have control over, and release the rest.
You have control over YOU. How this man, or anyone feels and/or sees you - matters not.
YOU know who YOU are. If someone has the wrong impression, they will grow and realize this by you staying true to your character. By being true to yourself.
Sometimes this will take effort. But I promise you, it will get easier.
You are precious. You matter and have something real to offer.
Do you want to force all this wonderFULLness on someone who cannot see it?
This man may be seasonal. To give you the experience of knowing you can feel. And now to give you the wisdom to know your worth.
There are many people in the world. You have only met a few.
Trust. Have faith. And when IT happens.. know you deserve to be happy and full peace & joy.
Cool?
Cool!

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TWITTER TUESDAY: IF... Questions for the SOUL:

2009-05-12T14:28:00.004-06:00

When asked: “IF God were to grant you one favor, what would you ask?”
I found myself somewhat silent. As I have many request, and more than many wants. To speak to God to ask of anything, I feel humbled. What more could I ask?
After much thought, I concluded to the following answer: I would ask God to allow me the strength and insight to experience this journey in a way that is pleasing to him.

Below are some amazing replies from my Twitter Friends, feel free to add your own reflections & insight.

Mo_Betta serenity

kimcameron For venues to actually pay artists what they are worth.

julythirteenth He would want me to convince as many people as possible that he is indeed real.

OnasussMaximus "God, please rid the world of all of these haters, naysayers and fools trying to fight the future. They're blowing my buzz."

JormaJyrkkanen I would ask that he create Charles Darwin and then retire from doing any more magic.
I would ask Freya to give me a 22 year old body and energy and Thor to give me more wisdom and a voice like thunder.

PoeticMind I'll have 2 really think about that ?. Pretty hard

kathyIreland For everyone to know the Peace and Love that is the foundation of my life, my Best Friend, Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! TY

ZaraGreen Wow...just 1 favor, hah?...I'd ask for unlimited favors ;)

sambrooklyn for my childrens lives to be blessed and favored.

cyntjemusic The ability 2 heal souls with each note I played.

13ft If I could ask for one favor... to have never met my ex. I could reclaim 13yrs of my life and not distrust so many ppl.

From the book: IF…Questions for the Soul.

Lauryn Hill - I Gotta Find Peace of Mind [MTV Unplugged]

2009-04-24T06:11:00.001-06:00

...we are all flawed... sistah lauryn..is beautifully flawed

Sir mix a lot - Baby got back (techno metal Dj Vivid Blue)

2009-04-13T12:42:00.001-06:00

For those who wish to see the song in which the Burger Commercial is based off of.

Square Butts Burger King Music Video with SpongeBob Square Pants

2009-04-13T12:37:00.001-06:00

Many of you have seen the new Burger King video promoting the Sponge Bob Square Pants kids meal.
Parody used is Sir Mix A lot’s Baby Got Back. You may have heard the lyrics penetrating your kids dialogue “I like square butts and I cannot lie”

In this video Sir Mix A Lot is standing on a 10 ft tall Booty. Yep, I specifically chose that word, because at the end of the BK commercial, the camera pans into Sir Mix A Lot who is watching on the sofa with women to the left and right of him and he says “Booty is Booty”

Is it really? Is Nickelodeon and Burger King attempting to convince me that it makes sense to promote a children’s meal using a video that was targeted towards adults? To discuss the value of this video towards the empowerment and respect towards adult women is another matter itself.

Here’s the issue. This commercial is foul on multiple levels.

It is saying the parents are so lured in by trendy hip hop beats that to fit in means more than their child’s worth. Not to mention this song is OLD. They more than likely felt like it was a win/win choice, as it’s a hit in Karaoke bars. Let me repeat BARS, and most African American’s are familiar with Sir Mix A lot.

I have a son, who is beginning to pay attention to girls around his age. This commercial does NOTHING to help show a need to respect women. Sexual undertones, overtones, messages are all over the television programs and commercials as it is. But the children’s programs and commercials need to be off limits.

For those who have daughters, granddaughters, nieces etc. Do we really want their objectification to begin in elementary school? Granted do we ever want it to begin? No. To infest their innocence for a catchy beat is ridiculous and pitiful.

Shame on Burger King!
Shame on Nickelodeon!

How are scantly clad ladies dancing in booty shorts showing a positive image to anyone? It devalues the worth of the ladies, and the fact that they are dancing around a Pimp, oops I mean Mr. Burger King, only adds to the mixed messages of worth already waiting for our children as they get older.

I am not a prude. I find many forms of media and entertainment amusing. But I am an adult. I have the choice to turn on or off what I choose. Our children are in a vulnerable state. While Burger King and Nickelodeon may not be part of our Village, it will only be because that is their choice. They had the money, and resources to invest and send an impactful message to you and I - the consumers. They must’ve had meetings and invested more money in this commercial than many of us will ever see in our lifetime. They invested all this time and effort, not to promote a commercial to target our children with healthy food choices, but with junk. Or perhaps that’s the real message. Maybe the need to not dive into the quality of the meal was point of the booty shaking distraction?

I do not know. But neither Burger King nor Nickelodeon gave me little to work with to come up with a positive conclusion. Either way, it is clear that they did not have MY child’s interest at heart. And it is clear they do not have your child’s interest at heart either.

Melinda Kinnear - A Northern Virginia Shero! and other ADHD Tales:

2009-03-30T14:42:00.009-06:00

When my son was younger, I pulled him out of Prince William County Schools to home school. My son has been diagnosed with ADHD co-morbid with ODD , and some have said he is gifted. I have researched the kinesthetic way of learning, as well as other alternative teaching methods.
As a single parent, I had no choice to place my son back in the public education pool. While I am deeply thankful, that he currently has educators around him who seem to genuinely care, I know deep down that it is not the best place for him. THE BEST, is out of my reach, my financial status and insurance coverage.
Resources and finances have created a weight that may forever hold my child down.
As a parent, we all want the best for our kids. And it kills a spirit within when we are not able to offer that to our children.
And while THE BEST is currently out of my reach, I know that if I seek a pill pusher doctor that will sit with my son for 15 minutes or less and prescribe a variety of chaos for him to take with his meals that this doctor is in my reach. And it’s not that I’m opposed to meds. I am opposed to meds being prescribed when the time has not been taking to thoroughly evaluate and assess my child.

I applaud Mrs. Kinnear. She took matters into her own hands. And she empowered both herself and the future of her children by creating an environment where they can learn and soar. I completely enjoyed the brief time I home schooled my son. However, being a single parent, and working a full time job simply didn’t allow for this to be a permanent solution.

Mrs. Kinnear has created Kitchen Sink Learning Solutions, which is an online correspondence for home schoolers. If you home school, please show your support and consider her business. She and I have never met, but I am so very impressed and proud of her determination and tenacity.

To view entire article featured in InsideNOVA: click here!

*note: Photo and story from Inside NOVA. Photo credit reflected above.

Tutor at Gunston Elementary School in Fairfax, VA - Charged with Molesting a Student:

2009-03-30T12:49:00.006-06:00

Tutor at Gunston Elementary School has been charged with molesting a student.

See story here: FAIRFAX ELEMENTARY MOLESTATION CASE: (source InsideNOVA.com)

Molestation in any scenario is foul and should always come with very severe consequences.
With that being said, when the one doing the molesting is a teacher or anyone else in authority over children, the punishment should be equal to an individual who has committed murder.

Missing Dr. John Hope Franklin and what he means to me:

2009-03-25T21:47:00.003-06:00

I chose to procreate with a monster.That's not some Single Mama rhetoric or the first line in a blues song. It's a fact.To save time, just take my word for it.

My kid has been dealt a raw deal. At birth he was given the gift of too much baggage to deal with alone. And yet he does. My kid has an ache that seeks him out and kills a part of his innocence each day he takes a step closer into manhood.

While I love my son deeply. No one has time for him. At 11 years of age, he has never tossed the football, gone fishing, just hung out at the basketball court with that man 2 man bonding. Other than my father, his grandfather, no man has consistently made the effort to be in his life in a dependable "People let me tell you about my best friend" way.

My son so intensely wants a man to connect with. That I as his mother have to determine which man would be there for him with pure intentions. News images of molestation and abuse creep in as we fit the profile of easy targets. Except the conclusions would be far ... well, no need to incriminate myself here.

I know a lot of wonderful men with great intentions. From conservative to liberal. From clean cut, shirt and tie, 9 to 5 men, to dreadlocks, barefoot, howling at the moon artist types. Good men. Smart men. ...absent men. And why shouldn't they be? My son is my responsibility. 100%. ...except he wants to be better than he is. Except he is yearning to be a man, and finds the answers in the around the way wanna be men.

So what does this have to do with Dr. John Hope Franklin?

I created a Letters of Leadership campaign. Since the men I knew were not able to be there for my son, I reached for men I respected. I wrote approx. 100 letters. Some came back. Many were ignored. I will not list the names of the rejection letters. Except for Mr. Nelson Mandela, because their letter was so cute. It basically said "Miss he's elderly and has been through a lot in his life. We would like him to rest." :) However, the Three Doctors, Dr. Ben Carson, and a few others all took the time to write my son a very kind inspiring letter. And one of the most charming letters we received was from Dr. John Hope Franklin. He wrote to my son about fishing. He talked about where he was from and asked my son to find it on the map. He gave my son a moment to say "I see you young man, and you matter."

And for this, I will be forever grateful to Dr. Franklin.

There's a difference between some dude hitting on a single mother through her kid and a man realizing when a child needs him. One feels so foul...and the other so intensely uplifting. Fitting that Hope is in his name, as he gave us hope that day.

...He gave us hope.

And as a mother raising a boy into a man...knowing the obstacles that are waiting for him. I will show him ghosts of men. Through books, TV, and meaningful and moving letters. Constantly saying a silent prayer that the Hope in the letters are enough.

If a change must come, then I must change. (Being Healthy 101)

2009-03-12T13:34:00.005-05:00

All my life the only thing petite about me has been my height. I am 5’4”, and while I feel this is
an honorable height, I find many of my peers amused of my vertical pride. My weight has never been classified as petite. Never. Ever.
Still, while my size has an abundance of synonyms that can be used to describe me, my own self image had been pretty content.

Easy to do when you experience life from the inside out.

My boyfriend, and the key men, I’ve dated in the past have always been attracted to me at whatever size I was. Some even tried to fatten up like I was going to be in the local country fair.

And as nice as all this is, the bottom line is when I see a photo of myself it is a harsh reality check. I almost want to blame the photographer capturing and killing my denial.

My 11 year old son is now struggling with his weight. He often asks me to go jogging with him or to the weight room, or at least walking. I put forth much effort in supporting him, from the sidelines of my sofa. I realize that this is not fair to my kid, or me. I realize and am finally facing the reality that a change must come.

It’s not just about me anymore.

The argument could be made that I make good eating choices for myself and my son.
The argument could be made that I did my part by being healthy, so dog-gone-it Body you do your part and slim down!
Yeah, as silly as it sounds I know there are some other women who can feel where I’m coming from.

A change must come.

I am THE best example of the woman who is busy and tired, and has NO desire to exercise or change her eating habits.

A change must come.

A few weeks ago, some friends in my department at work decided to embark on a weight loss challenge. Cute – I thought. And I had zero intention on participating. I did not want to feel burdened or pressured to success…or failure of my team.
But after avoiding the persistent invites from my supervisor, I caved. Yes, caved.
To be healthy, fit, and a good example for my son is a goal that sounds good in theory, but will not be easy with an already stressed and full life waiting for me each day.

If a change must come, then I must change.

My team is called Team Flame. We are beginning the 4th week of our 6 week challenge. I will be back to catch you up on the prior weeks. I know it’s not just me wanted and needing to reach for a better quality of life.

Join me. Support me!

On Twitter? Connect with me @CoffeebreakDMV. Myself and @BootCampMommy are on a sit up mission, today is Monday and we aim for 100 sit ups in sets of 25 through out the day, it's a lot easier to do when your not alone…the more the merrier! Join us!

McDonald's McScrews Hero Out of Money

2009-02-23T14:02:00.006-05:00

Shame McDonalds! Shame!

Would the "family" franchise be happier if the young lady in the video had been shot?

Not everyone would have stepped up to defend someone being abused in public. The judge called Mr. Hasket a Hero, and I agree.

Mr. Nigel Haskett should be compensated for his medical expenses.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwhw-Inji0k

(source Huffington Post)

WELCOME INSIDE NOVA.com!!

2009-02-23T11:31:00.003-05:00

I want to say a very warm & sincere "Hello & Welcome!" to Inside Nova!
When I was growing up in Dale City, Inside NOVA was the Potomac News.
I remember being excited about the paper being delivered so I could quickly open to the comics and read Ann Landers.
There is something wonderful and special about local newspapers. The sense of community is pricesless. In local newspapers, I often find myself looking at the names, because there is a real chance I will know some of the bold names in print. It could be someone getting married, or going to court. Over the years, I have seen long lost friends names appear as they go off to war or have the details of their funeral service written up.

Prince William County, VA is not at all Mayberry. We do not have a Sheriff Andy Taylor with a goofy but lovable deputy. But as the community has grown, and the many changes have occurred, when it's all said and done, we are still a community.

I look forward to connecting with you as I write more about local events. Please feel free to leave comments.

Michelle

CoffeebreakDMV@aol.com

Twitter? Follow me @CoffeeBreakDMV

MAMA BADU Shares Baby Twitter's name:

2009-02-04T07:59:00.001-05:00

***UPDATE****Mama Badu has informed via Twitter:
Beautiful Baby Girls name: Mars Merkaba
She's only a few days old...expect wonderful things from her!

It's a GIRL! -Twitters first Baby! Badu-Style!

2009-02-03T14:02:00.004-05:00

This past Sunday (January 31, 2009), was not only a great day for Steelers fans as they won the Superbowl!

Sunday is also the day of *Twitters first baby!

Musician Erykah Badu and her boyfriend Producer Jay Electronica keep us all updated to their baby girls arrival.

Allow me to share the timeline of Life:

Date: Feb 1

EB- Erykah Badu

JE- Jay Electronica

8:56 AM Labor has begun. Everybody standback. No hospitals. No doctors. No medicine. We're waiting on the midwife to show up. -je

9:04 AM Contractions are 3 min apart...breathing -eb

9:41 AM The Midwife is here now and a few family members. Feels like a scene in "The Color Purple".

11:49 AM Getting closer. She says she's ready to push. -je

1:19 PM Water broke. - je

1:29 PM I see the head. Full of hair. - je

** SO HAPPY TO WELCOME THIS TWITTERS FIRST BABY GIRL! ***

How are Mom & Dad? FANTASTIC! Their post birth thoughts:

From Daddy:

1:56 PM Feb 1. 2009 My first child, my daughter was born at 1:30 pm exactly. Its the happiest day of my life.

From Mommy:

5:49 PM I can't believe its over. Home birth. No pain killers. About 5 hours. She was lil pass due date but I didn't mind waiting.

OH, and the name. Well, I will let Mommy tell you. Now...Erykah has been named to choose unique names before, so this might be the little Angel's name... or maybe they will choose it as a nickname...but for now we call her:

6:17PM We named the baby Twitty Milk - eb

(note: "Twitty Milk" is the 3rd little one to call Erykah Badu "mommy". First there's son Seven (Father is Andre 3000), next is Puma Rose (Father is West Coast rapper The D.O.C.)

*Twitter is a WorldWide Instant Message. http://www.twitter.com/

President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle's first dance

2009-01-23T18:55:00.003-05:00

Big Hug to Brad for recording this!
He & his friends made this wonderful night so much FuN! Great group of gentlemen.
This is where I was positioned, along with my best friend Tracey and her mother.
A beautiful & wonderful moment!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCjdEl4ycAQ

Enjoy & please feel free to comment.
Peace & love,
Michelle @ CoffeeBreakDMV

If I'm Dreaming Do NOT Wake Me! -- I am going to the Inauguration!

2009-01-18T13:55:00.004-05:00

My Friends,

I am so happy to write this entry. As I type this I am waiting for my best friend Tracey (since 7th grade) to pick me up as we head to DC.

This will be short, as she should be pulling up any minute, but wanted to share this with you!

And it gets better, we are going to THE BALL! To see Beyonce', Stevie Wonder, and of course The Man himself President Obama is reaching way beyond my imaginiation.

I look farward to sharing all the details with you.

One note that makes it interesting is I hate crowds and I hate the cold! So I am stepping out my comfort zone completely! ...and what a fantastically perfect occasion to do so!

Feel free to follow me on Twitter! As I will be sharing frequent updates! You can follow at: @CoffeeBreakDMV

Peace & Light!

michelle @CoffeeBreakDMV

Coal In West Virginia: "Slowly But Surely They're Killing Us -- Legally"

2008-12-31T16:42:00.002-05:00

Coal In West Virginia: "Slowly But Surely They're Killing Us -- Legally"

TO SEE VIDEO:

A toxic coal ash sludge spill in Tennessee ruined land, homes and lives recently, bringing to the fore an inconvenient truth about coal: it's not clean.
So where is the next sludge spill? Where are the piles of coal ash around the country that are similarly prone? While that information is gathered, here's a look at how non-spilled coal is ruining land, homes and lives, thanks to a 5-part VBS special.
While the entire special is interesting, here's the fifth part, focusing on how chemicals in the water supply are affecting a West Virginia family. (source Huffington post)

A Message to President-Elect Obama from 10 Year OId Reporter Damon Weaver

2008-12-31T15:37:00.005-05:00

WOW a fantastic young Man!

If I had the connections I would make it happen.

Since I don't.. I will wish him a very sincere & heartfelt Good-luck!

Click HERE to see Interview!

"Barack the Magic Negro"...another reason why the RNC should be ashamed.

2008-12-29T16:12:00.003-05:00

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/12/26/rnc-candidate-distributes_n_153585.html

There is so much WRONG with this, I don't know where to begin!Not only is this deeply IGNORANT, it makes the U.S. as a whole look silly.Saltsman needs to be reprehended. This "song" reflects more than lack of respect, it reflects a deep concern limited to no common sense. This is a racist effort masked in the "oops, did I do that?" passive aggressiveness. Not acceptable. If he is going to wear the title of Man, then he needs to Man up and be held accountable.Also- Ken Blackwell, does not, in no way represent the sentiments of the African American community. Period.To sit on the house waving a flag that says "hypersensitive" is concerning too many levels to fix here. Not to mention he clearly does not grasp the meaning of the word. More than likely he will not getting the real meaning of many words.I get that race matters can be confusing. I understand that African American race relations in particular can be confusing. But as we come together and learn how to treat each other with common courtesy and respect. Please know we no longer use the word "Negro". If we meet, and you do not know how to identify me...simply say "Hello, Michelle...."

Rally with Barack Obama & Joe Biden in VA today!

2008-09-27T06:12:00.001-06:00

Hey,

Join me in Fredericksburg this Saturday, September 27th, for a rally with Barack Obama and Joe Biden.

http://va.barackobama.com/fredericksburg

Here are the details:

Change We Need Rallywith Barack Obama and Joe Biden

Ball CircleUniversity of Mary Washington1301 College Ave.Fredericksburg, VA

Saturday, September 27thGates Open: 3:00 p.m.Program Begins: 5:15 p.m.

This event is free and open to the public. Tickets are not required; however an RSVP is strongly encouraged

For security reasons, do not bring bags and please limit personal items. No signs or banners permitted.

Thanks!

John McCain..the Maverick?!

2008-09-15T05:22:00.002-06:00

I was helping my son do his homework on 'word etymology' and thought it might be interesting to look up "Maverick".

John McCain has attempted to incorporate this word to hit the subconscious thoughts of youthful, hero like swagger. To try to hit that John Wayne & Johnnie Cash "coolness". (Which for many reasons this alone could easily be debated).

Still-- here's what the Online Etymology Dictionary says:
maverick
1867, "calf or yearling found without an owner's brand," in allusion to Samuel A. Maverick (1803-70), Texas cattle owner who was negligent in branding his calves. Sense of "individualist, unconventional person" is first recorded 1886, via notion of "masterless."

http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?search=maverick&searchmode=nl

so...when we go to vote...are you goin to vote for the "Negligent Texas cattle owner?"

...just asking...

Barack says "Back OFF!"

2008-09-02T05:12:00.003-06:00

(story from FOXNews)
September 1st, 2008 2:40 PM Eastern
Obama Says Palin Pregnancy "Off Limits"
.. --> Share -->by Bonney Kapp
Barack Obama addressed a gaggle of reporters this afternoon to discuss the latest goings-on with Hurricane Gustav. After brief opening comments on the much-hyped, overly politicized hurricane, reporters were curious about one thing: 17-year-old Bristol Palin's pregnancy, made public today.
"I have heard some of the news on this and so let me be a clear as possible: I have said before and I will repeat again, I think people's families are off limits, and people's children are especially off limits. This shouldn't be part of our politics," the Democrat said forcefully. "It has no relevance to Governor Palin's performance as governor, or her potential performance as a VP. And so I would strongly urge people to back off these kinds of stories," he continued.
The candidate who himself was born to a teenage mom, reminded reporters, "You know my mother had me when she was 18, and how a family deals with issues and you know teenage children, that shouldn't be the topic of our politics and I hope that anybody who is supporting me understands that's off limits."
When asked about an "unnamed McCain advisor" accusing the Obama campaign of spreading despicable rumors surrounding Bristol Palin online, Obama interrupted the reporter mid-question. "I am offended by that statement. There is no evidence at all that any of this involved us," he said directly. "Our people were not involved in any way in this, and they will not be. And if I ever thought that it was somebody in my campaign that was involved in something like that - they'd be fired," he added.
With that, Obama boarded his airport-bound bus to head to Milwaukee for a rally.

Michelle Obama. First Class Lady.

2008-08-25T22:30:00.004-06:00

Tonight I watched day one of the DNC convention. I am so very impressed with Michelle Obama...she is a First Class Lady.

Tonight I was able to teach my 11 year old son a lesson I hope he carries with him forever. We watched the majority of the coverage on TV ONE, who did a FANTASTIC job! They introduced me to Congressmen and Senators I had not known before tonight, but are all very important to politics.

We also checked out C-SPAN and CNN, and by comparison offered very little. It was often negative and at time degrading. Could be I missed all the positive points when I turned back to TV ONE.

But two specific moments touched me the most.

First was to watch Senator Ted Kennedy. I incorrectly assumed that once he got on the mic, that he would sound frail and feeble. NOT! Wow! His voice was a strong and solid as his shoulders. Watching his family tear up as they listened to him. To me was deep.

The second moment was to watch Michelle Obama. She is a Lady. This is a word I do not use a lot. And I mean it as enduring and respectful as it may sound. She is a politician's wife. In the past, this was not something that would particularly impress me. As most wives we see who are politicians and/or politician wives seem hard, and robot-like. Never feel warm...rarely come across as a soul that feels.

For me that perception changed tonight.

My boyfriend is often perplexed as the man I see him as. He is a musician and might be one of the most intelligent men I know. There is little I feel he cannot do. And while it may be clearly true that he is not running for President of the United States. :) The point I'm making is He is someone I love and believe in. That's what I saw in Michelle Obama tonight. She not only loves her husband, and believes in him, and is proud to be with him. He is her friend. And she is IN love with him.

Regardless of the race. And in many ways regardless of the outcome of this political race. To see a family in love...is a beautiful thing on any given day.

Peace, Love, & Light,michelle @ coffeebreak8

My HIV Test AKA My 20 Minute Prayer

2008-08-19T13:43:00.002-06:00

Earlier this week I wrote about ADHD/ODD…so I thought I'd make this an acronym week!

I tend to fall asleep with the television on. This morning I woke up to MTV. There was a program on called: "Think HIV: This Is Me". Talk about deep. I encourage everyone to watch this program. The lives profiled in this documentary were all so young. Yes, I realize at 40 years old, the abundance of the "younger generation" is getting pretty large.

I took my first HIV test in my 20's. Not because I wanted to. My "test" prior to that point was, the partners I had were healthy- so HEY I must be too!" ….yes, my wisdom as greatly matured over time. (smile). I took my first test because I was pregnant. And even then I was very hopeful that I would hear good news. And I did.

But it was in my 30's that I took my HIV test intentionally. After putting it off for so long, it came down to the day I just felt like I couldn't wait anymore. So I dragged my son with me to a free clinic in D.C. He waited outside the room when I got "the speech". They want to make sure you will not hurt yourself or anyone else if the results are not what you want to hear. When the truth is all along, I'm thinking "yeah- yeah, just swab my mouth and give me the news!"

Twenty minutes I waited.

Twenty minutes I prayed and made promises and prayed some more. This is pretty difficult with my very patient son being with me and wanting to chat and chat and chat. I didn't want to move or say a word. I just wanted to pray. My mind could not, would not shift to any other subject.

15 minutes left. 10 minutes left.

Never before had time just froze and left me grasping and reaching for the next second, the next minute.

When twenty minutes finally crawled pass me. The gentleman at the clinic called myself and my son, into a too small, too cluttered room. I asked if my son should be present. They said it was up to me. I let him stay.
"You are HIV negative." The gentleman's words filled the air. Yet, it seemed to be beyond my comprehension.
I just sat there. Put my head in my hands, and asked him to hold on for a minute.

I am HIV NEGATIVE. I was/am so thrilled. But during my twenty minute prayer, I realized that there is little difference between me and the other people in the room being tested that day. We all had one thing in common. We all had at least one partner we had been with. I am not a "bad person"… nor could I conclude that anyone in the waiting room with me was a 'bad' person.

Once the news finally sunk in to my consciousness, I stood up and gave the gentleman a huge hug. That split second everything in my life could have taken a turn. A friend of mine took a test at the same D.C. clinic a week or two before I did. He too tested HIV negative. However, on the same tray was a HIV positive result. I often think about this person. For their life changed that day as well.

HIV positive doesn't seem to mean what is use to mean. Back in the day we automatically concluded it meant AIDS. We automatically concluded it meant a slow & painful death. No longer. If you get tested and get the meds rolling early- a full and wonderful life can be had.

Please, check out this documentary, and share your thoughts. I care about you. You do the same and care about you too! (smile)

Also, check this link out. Just enter in your zip code and it will pull up a local testing center in your area. Make it a date night! Make it a first date night! …Trust when I say, no matter how FINE he or she is, no one is so fine to want their HIV. And that's TRUTH I'm giving you!

National HIV TESTING CENTERS: http://www.hivtest.org/

To check out the MTV Documentary:
http://www.mtv.com/overdrive/?id=1538811&vid=102501

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